Depression or sad

Manda007_ · ‎16-03-2019

Hey guys,

i am not sure if I have depression or anxiety.. I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, , I cry all the time, I sit at home and the walls feel like they are closing in on me, which makes me feels worse, but the idea of going out fills me with dread and makes me feel sick. I didn’t go to work on Friday because I could not leave the house.

I feel like I am being sucked into a black hole and I am about to be consumed by it. I just can’t seem to get happy.

My partner just broke up with me so I am not sure if I am sad or depressed. My ex is on deployment and recently told me that they are not coming home to me and I need to move out of my home navies they are taking a job in another state.

i feel like a shell of my former self and I just can’t seem to shake this sadness. We have been having problems since nov and I have felt this way since then.

I have tried therapy but it does not seem to be helping me... should I do?

i need help

blondguy · ‎16-03-2019

Hey Manda007#

Welcome and thankyou for being a part of the forums too 🙂

I am sorry you have been going through such a difficult time. My partner dumped me a couple of years ago and I was a real mess. I understand where you are coming from Manda and yes it can be a dark place to be in

I have placed a copy & paste link below for an easy checklist that hopefully brings you some clarity

www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety-and-depression-checklist-k10

Can I ask if you have a support network of people that you can talk to? Usually 4-5 people is great yet 1 supportive person/friend can also provide you with some peace too

You are always more than welcome to post back if and when you wish Manda!

you are not alone

my kind thoughts for you Manda

Paul

MsPurple · ‎17-03-2019

Hi Manda and welcome to the forums.

I was going to suggest you do the k10 checklist like paul. I know doctors sometimes use this tool so it is a great idea to do. Be honest with yourself when you do it.

For myself when I was asking myself 'is it depression or am I just sad?' then I know the answer, but don't really want to admit it. However I am not a professional, so I had to ask my doctor to get confirmation. I think if you are asking yourself the question then it is time to book an appointment to see your gp (long appointment, when I booked I said it was for a mental health care plan, just so when I arrived we got straight to the point). They can refer you do a psychologist. This can help you find your yourself so you don't feel like a shell of your former self. Now I know you said therapy hasn't helped. I have had this happen to me to. I told my gp it wasn't working and they suggested trying a different psychologist. After a few sessions it started to help. I didn't feel alone and I could talk about my true depression feelings. Maybe ask to see a different therapist. It can also take about 3-4 sessions to feel completely comfortable with them and for it to help.

Sorry to hear about your breakup. I found talking to my psychologist really helpful to deal with this. Although it may not be the sole reason for your sadness, it probably isn't helping.

Manda007_ · ‎17-03-2019

it is serious.. I need medication and more therapy. I did something silly today after talking to my partner.. I need a lot of help.. my family is worried I am too. But I will be ok.

MsPurple · ‎18-03-2019

HI Manda

Sorry it has taken a while for me to come back on the forums. Was with family. If you ever need instant help and support feel free to call beyond blue support on 1300224636 or Lifeline on 131114

Sounds like you are in a bad place. I personally (as well as many other forum users) know what this feels like. It feels like you are at the bottom of a pit and can't get out. You feel like there is no way out. But I promise with help and support there is. They can throw down a ladder and help you out.

Have you booked an appointment to see you GP? I suggest doing so as soon as you can. Maybe see if you can get another referal to another therapist if you don't feel like the one you are seeing isn't working/connecting.

SunshineJ · ‎19-03-2019

Hi Mandy,

What about spending time with people (like family) that make you feel safe and don't mind if you are just moping about feeling sad. Sometimes being around other people can help you feel a bit better so you are not just in your head all the time. I second the idea of going back to GP and maybe finding new therapist.