Hey Justin!
Comparing yourself to others is not an unusual thing for a person to do. I used to do it all the time and to be honest I still catch myself comparing myself with others. Something that I always try to remember is that the way you see yourself in the mirror is not how others see you. What you view as flaws, others may not even notice. I can quite confidently tell you right now that if a female chooses someone over you because they have abs...they're probably not someone you'd really want to be with in the first place. People's bodies change throughout their life and if a female decides to date someone purely based off looks, it's not going to last because as soon as her man decides to stop working out or starts to lose his hair, she'll leave and that's not going to make her partner feel valued or special or wanted at all. I'm a female and I've started modelling and there's still aspects about myself that I wish I could change. There's nothing wrong with you. Everyone sees something in themselves that they wish they could fix. I used to suffer from achne. I was always self-conscious of my height (I'm 185cm tall) and I still am sometimes. I don't have abs either and I always hated how my stomach looked in the mirror. But the truth is...there is so much more to life than looks. There are so many adventures to be had and people to meet! The right person will come and they will love you for you...flaws and all. When you grow old and look back on your life, ask yourself what you'd rather see....your younger self having fun and meeting lots of new people and experiencing the world and what life has to offer, or your younger self fretting in the mirror over what's probably an incredibly small part of yourself that can't be changed. Also, someone probably views you the same way you view that guy with abs who gets all the ladies...you're just not aware of it and that guy with abs also looks in the mirror and wishes he could change something. He may wish he could change something about his personality so he didn't feel like he has to work so hard to compensate via his appearance. He probably has his own problems with ladies too...he might feel that ladies ONLY want to be with him because of his appearance and use him for sex and I can't imagine that that would make someone feel very valued or special either. You never know what someone is going through or what they're thinking.
