Hi everyone,
I'm off to see a counsellor in a couple of weeks. I wanted help with some techniques for dealing with some of my anxious habits.
I tend to project my anxieties in my conversation. Being meta, this forum is that projection as well. All my conversations seem to revolve around an issue I'm having (which are never ending being an overthinker). I want to stop this. I'm always serious in conversations. I can't remember the last time I laughed heartily. I find conversation without a good deep/meaningful topic rather boring. But I'm also embarassed to laugh like people are judging me if I laugh. As though laughter is a sign of stupidity. (I know its me, how do I overcome it?)
I find talking with family and friends have limits. No one really listens, they just react with a basic answer that tends to make me feel guilt like I'm complaining. While I concede I am on the negative side (positives seem to remain unsaid), I am usually observing a situation and trying to decide if its right for me. Then I ask advice to validate my direction. One example of an issue I'm having is I'm a guy bisexual, which is confusing as it is (my parents prefer I be either gay or straight). I like this girl who is amazing in so many ways, perfect for me and likes me for me. I find I can't seem to have conversation deep enough with her for me. When I ask her opinion on something, I never really get one. So when I talk about her with people, I come off as a villian for the most part, complaining but to me its just observing and trying to figure out if she is right for me or not. I focus on the negatives. Any advice?
I find I'm extremely frustrated lately. I live with my family still and sick of the seemingly never ending guilt trips or manipulations. Alot of demanding things be done in their timeframe but not mine. I am trying to have boundaries to help this.
But I also don't know how to relax. When I relax I start thinking and the thinking then becomes a loop. Constantly figuring out an endless puzzle. Its much worse on weekends and my self control weakens. (I eat way too much sugar and chocolate as a vice). I am trying to attach action to a thought but then I find I don't follow through with the action (when the self control weakens) so the thinking occurs that I have to do this or that. Mindfulness doesn't quite work for me. Any advice?
I dont want to be stuck on this hedonic treadmill of anxiety and dissatisfaction.I surpass one issue then another one creates itself.
