Cherophobia The fear of being happy

[Matchy69]

Hi I think have this Cherophobia and wonder if anyone else has this.

I am scared when I am happy that something bad will happen as this is the usual case with me all out through my life.I seem to want to be unhappy and just waiting for something bad to happen.How do i overcome this fear or do I just live with it as this is the safe option.I am scared of heights so i stay away from hsights so do i just stay away from happiness?

Your thoughts are welcome.

Take care,

Mark.

[Guest_4643]

Hi Mark, thank you. I'm doing my best, feeling like my Psych hates me and is trying to send me to the triage so he doesn't have to deal with me. I understand his point but I told him what happened and that they were rude and refused to see and help me and he keeps telling me and the GP that I should go there. Like I said I understand his point but to me it feels like he's saying "you deal with her" and he doesn't want to work with me anymore. he's never said that but this is how I'm feeling and I can't stop it and this is making me feel worse. I'll mention it to him on Monday. He said we'll discuss more frequent sessions since I emailed asking that too, so I hope that can happen and I'm anxious about that.

I hope the new meds work for me too, thank you. You don't need a magic answer but that's sweet of you, thanks. I wish I could help you too, I hope I do somehow. I'm sorry about your struggles too.

Love and hugs, take care too.

[Matchy69]

Hi Tayla you are such a sweet girl and am sure your psychistrist wants to still work with you and likes you.I hope you can have a really good talk with him on the 30th and you can discuss or the things that are worrying you.When i use to see my psychologist she use to say hows everything and i would say fine and then she would say ok whats wrong and i would tell her.She knew me so well.

Take care,

Lots of hugs,

Your friend,

Mark.

[Guest_4643]

Hi Mark, sorry I fell asleep. As always, thanks for the kind words. I feel this way because he just keeps mentioning the triage and trying to get me to go there, I told him what happened and he said it was wrong. I understand his point but to me its hurtful and like he's pushing me away. If he talks to me about the triage again in our sessions i'll hang up or say I'm going to. He doesn't seem to understand.

Thats good about your Psych.

[Matchy69]

Hi Tayla I think you just tell him you do not want to do triage and their is nothing that will change your mind.I am sorry about the bad experience,it does suck when that happens and scares you off.

I am sorry for the late reply i just had a busy day.

Take care,

Your friend,

Mark.

[Guest_4643]

Hi Mark, I just saw this thread, sorry. Yeah I'll do that, because it's making me seem crazy and I'm not and it's very offensive and hurtful to me. Maybe if I cry he might get the point. I hope he doesn't hate me and wants to keep seeing me. However I did email the Telehealth company recently asking if I can see him more (this was before the report to the new GP) and he said we'll discuss it on Monday, so fingers crossed. He's never been rude to me and I was starting to see a little improvement but now I don't think so.

I was thinking he could've also written about the triage to the GP because she's new and she's still learning about me. I have to do a phone call session with the GP on Monday at 12:30pm instead of going into the clinic because of the virus which is understandable.

How are you going? Thinking of you, take care.

Tayla

[Matchy69]

Hi Tayla,good luck with your appointments tomorrow and the doctor practise i go to will only do appointments over the phone now.They dont want anyone going into the practise.Makes it hard when need my blood pressured checked and things like that.

I havent been feeling to good my self both physically and mentally.I am feeling very lonely at the moment.I really appreciate you talking to me and your friendship,it means a lot to me.

Thats great you became a bluevoice member.I have thought about doing it my self.

Take care,

Your friend,

Mark.

[Guest_4643]

Hey Mark, I'll also be doing a phone appointment with my GP tomorrow. I'm sorry to hear about your blood pressure, my GP hasn't done any tests on me but that's fine, I seem to be OK. I hope you can get your blood pressure sorted soon, do they have any way of doing it there, perhaps the Pathology people? I don't know how it works, sorry.

I'll let you know about the appointment, I'm really scared and can't escape the anxiety, sigh. Take care.

And thanks for the kind words, I'm lonely too so I understand. I'm glad I can help, you help me too, so thanks.

Tayla

[quirkywords]

Mark,

I find I am not afraid of being happy but I don't trust being happy as it does not seem to last. I try to aim for not being unhappy.

Blue voices is an opportunity to be heard with your lived experience.

am sorry yo feel lonely. There are many people reading the posts who never respond but your words help others who then fell they are not alone.

[Matchy69]

Their is so much to be scared of today and it is just the unknown with everything.I think it is going to be a long lonely winter and thought of any happiness is a long way away.

[Matchy69]

Their is also the fear of being lonely.