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[Puchilin]

I have been with my company for nearly 13 years and once my latest boss came in it was still all good until one year into it where he promoted himself to a higher role obviously with a lot more money etc me as an EA stayed the same but my workload tripled and I became this unrecognisable person worked long hours weekends I basically adapted to my bosses workaholism but getting no reward nor appreciation. In any case I started putting on weight, I dreaded everyday even walking into the office and preferred working from home ( which certain workers frowned upon ) I lost motivation with my usual running and actually lost motivation or the drive to be at work physically. Mind you I am a single mum of 3 girls as well but for some reason work suddenly was number 1 family number 2 me ..... I was just existing until I decided to cut the cord got my GP to write me off for 3 weeks well I still worked remotely then I had 2 weeks relief but when it came to the time of having to go back to work I couldn’t mentally and physically putting on the mask again I just couldn’t or more like I did not want to. Of course my boss was upset and I admitted my mistakes to him and took full ownership of why I could not. In any case he asked me to see my GP again eventhough nothing is wrong with me I knew I needed more time. He flew out next day to overseas for business and did not even call me eventhough he said he would now I am clueless as to what to do I have been continuing to work from home done everything that has been asked of me I work remotely also for his people overseas but I don’t want to go back to the office since my boss has not spoken to me. I have a medical certificate saying ok to work from 10am-2pm but until he comes back Wednesday 1st of Nov I am clueless as to what I am meant to do.... even HR has not contacted me.....the whole disconnect is extremely bizarre....

i am basically at a loss so is my GP by the way.

i don’t even know what is going on no one calls me follows up with me not even HR?

Guess I am just worried of getting fired I rather resign first.

i know this not just about anxiety and being burned out this is actually not normal behaviour especially when on does not know or get told what their expectations are.

i don’t know I also feel guilt when I don’t go eventhough I shouldn’t.

i need some feedback please.

[Blue_Jane]

Hi there

Sorry to read what is going on with you. 13 years with the same organisation is such an achievement. You should be really proud of that length of service.

I don't understand your point around admitting mistakes to your boss? You not feeling up to working is not a mistake - it is an outcome of how work is making you feel.

Do you think it is the workload which is making you feel this way? When your boss gets back on Wednesday maybe you can make time to speak to him on Thursday or Friday and together figure out a few ways to reduce the load?

It is disappointing that he has not contacted you. Tomorrow, can you email him and give him an update on what you have been doing, what the doc said and say that you were expecting to hear from him as per your last conversation? Documenting a few things is also helpful in these situations so that you can remember what has occurred!

HR might not be aware of what is going on. This is your leader's responsibility and he might not have told them yet. Or maybe he was told what to do and hasn't gotten around to it.

You are not going to get fired, as you have not done anything wrong.

Let me know how you go.

Blue Jane

[BballJ]

Hi Puchilin,

Firstly, welcome to the forums.

Sorry to read what you are going through. Sound's like this boss really has put so much onto your shoulders that you now have to carry what seems to feel like a huge workload.

I think it is great that you took the big step to go and speak to your GP about how you were feelings and you do not want to take time away from your family at all. I think you are doing all of the right things by yourself and your family. It is good you also spoke with your boss about all of this. The concern is obviously that no one has contacted you, I think the best step here is to contact HR directly and advise them of the situation and see what they say, maybe even email so you have it in writing. I can't see how they can just fire you for openly admitting your are struggling at the moment.

Have you tried calling HR to see where you are at? If not and as I said above you may have to contact them first, at least this is you being proactive and in the end of the day your GP is backing you up as well.

Please, post back as much as you like, we are always happy to talk.

My best for you,

Jay