Apologies just looking for understanding

[Ladyrose]

I am sorry for taking up peoples time with my problems, but I feel very alone at the moment. I am having major anxiety issues changing jobs. I am completely petrified, and the new position is a long distance from home and I am not sure I have made the right decision. I have cried a river of tears, sweated, chest pains and a feeling of complete helplessness and feeling like a failure. I have booked a psychologist in a weeks time to try and deal with my issues. This is not living. Friends and family dont understand which makes it so much worse. I feel lost and alone as I cant talk to anyone about how I feel. People think by saying you will be ok that the anxiety just disappears. Thank you for listening as I know other people are going through much worse.

[geoff]

Hello Ladyrose, people may be going through worse, but when it happens to, then it's most concerning.

Changing jobs could be ideal but when you have to travel so far each day then a problem can arise, because you are in your car for a long time, time for you to think about what's happening which can cause your mind to extrapolate about many issues that may be of a concern or thoughts you think could happen and be a problem.

Anxiety can go away but normally this happens with medication along with counselling, it doesn't go away by itself because if this happens then you are prone to develop it once again for any reason.

Starting a new job does make you anxious because you know nothing about who you are working for or what the conditions are like, so you will be frightened.

Your appointment in a weeks time will give time to continue talking with us, let you write down the points you want to discuss with them and speak to free counselling sites and please if you need help finding these sites can you get back to us.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[Ladyrose]

Hi Geoff,

Thank you so much for responding and your kind words. 

I am struggling terribly in reality. I just cant stop sobbing and feel all is lost. I just have to remember that this time next week things will be better.

I will reach out to free counselling today.

Thank you for caring.

[Beaser]

Hi LadyRose.

I feel i am on the same path as you as i have a new job and i have to give notice tomorrow..   I know its hard and its such an individual thing. I too feel like im lost .  I think we both need to give  ourselves a break and know that we are trying to better ourselves.  Well done for seeking help too..    Happy to always talk more.     Brett.

[geoff]

Hello Ladyrose, don't hold back the tears because if you do then you are holding back your emotions and if you need to go to a park or somewhere no one can see you then please do so.

You have our support under any circumstances and any questions please ask us.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[Ladyrose]

Hi Brett,

Firstly congratulations on the new role. I am so happy for you. It is so hard taking the leap of faith after a long period of time. Terrifying in fact, but I know for me and I am sure for you, it is the right thing.

Thank you also for reaching out. I dont feel so alone. I wish all workplaces cared about their employees all of the time.

A friend came over today and we went for a walk which was just what I needed. I hope you have someone supporting you too.

Let me know.when you start the new role, as would love to hear how it goes. I start tomorrow so will keep you posted.

[Ladyrose]

You are amazing Geoff. Thank you so much. 

The one benefit of crying a river of tears today is I am so exhausted, I will sleep well tonight and hopefully not ruminate all night.

I absolutely hate how I feel at the moment, and want me strength back 😔.

Once I break the seal of the first day tomorrow, I am sure I will be ok.

Thank you again so much.

[Beaser]

Best wishes for today  LadyRose . Im keen to hear how it goes 

Brett

[Ladyrose]

Hi Brett,

I hope you are super well today.

I attended my new workplace today. The people are lovely, but still struggling with the change. I wanted to run away today but I didnt. Trying to be positive but still feeling that hope is lost. 

I know your role change will be better. The problem is me not the job.

Super tired so will sleep well 😊

[Beaser]

So Happy for you  Ladyrose.

What a great achievement to get there and do your first day.  Its great to hear the people are great.

I hope you slept well ,being so tired.  Looking forward to hearing more from you about how things are going.   

Best wishes Brett,