Anxiety sufferer

[Bearess72]

I have been suffering with anxiety for many years, I have tried councillors, medications and it feels like nothing is working for me. My partner is very supportive he also works shift work and sometimes is away for 24 hrs which make me feel very anxious especially when there is very bad weather around whilst I'm alone I become quite on edge and scared something bad will happened to me. When I feel this way I will try go out so I can be around people and feel secure. My councillor believes that due to my bad experience from an earth tremor the shock from that has made me feel the way I do.

My days just feel a struggle and it seems to just cripple me to the extent of where I can't function and be the great person I would like to be. When I talk about this it sounds very crazy but it's the truth on how I feel and I believe being honest is the best way for others to be able to suggest or give advice to me so I can move forward and not struggle every day like I have been for a long time now.

[white knight]

Hi Bearess, welcome

I had anxiety including panic attacks in the early days from 1987 when 31yo due to a workplace incident.

What worked for me might not work for you and it did take many years to overcome anxiety.

These are the things i did...

Take medication, its oart if the multi pronged remedy to your recovery

Therapy works. For me the greatest revelation was how my therapist identified l had unrealistic insecure thoughts. I learned to erase these fantasies to keep my head filled with only factual thoughts.

Spiritual guidence. I had tapes them days but it is vovered in this thread you can google

Topic: meditation, he helped me for 25 years, maharaji- beyondblue

Another thread worth reading...please google

Topic: be radical- beyondblue

That mentions what sort of changes you can make to help yourself.

You'll like this place

Tony WK

[BballJ]

Hi Bearess72,

Firstly, welcome to the forums.

Tony gave some great advice above, and I have dealt with anxiety for many, many years now and my advice is seeing a psych/counsellor, I understand you have seen one before but was it a one off chance or have you tried different ones... one thing that was said to me when I went to the GP looking for a referral, the GP said it can take time to find a good psych you click with, finding a good psych is like finding a good friend, so I do encourage you to find another if possible. Just my opinion anyway.

Do you have a good support network of friends who understand what you are feeling, someone you can talk to family or friend really? Also when your husband does shift work, any chance a friend or family member can stay over to keep you a little less anxious?

My best for you,

Jay

[Bearess72]

Thank you Tony for your advice its always great to get another peraoective on how to move forward from mental illness.

Im seeing a phycologist have been for 6mths and she is trying new techniques with me to help control and cope better with my anxiety but sometimes it seems so strong that nothing could help me.

Thank you for the helpful websites i will definatly look into them.

[Bearess72]

Hi Jay

Thank you for your helpful advice and guidance I have seen 2 phycologists and seeing a 3rd one at this point so hopefully I can learn how to cope and understand how to live a normal life again seems like a life time since I'm have had that.

I have recently moved from one state to another so my support group is small but meeting new people all the time my family is living between Melbourne and Qld so at this point phone and Skype are a great thing for us to still have the support that I need.

[BballJ]

Hi Bearess72,

That's great news, keep us updated with how you are going and as always post back as much as you would like to just chat or just talk about how you are coping with the anxiety etc.

My best for you,

Jay

[Bearess72]

Hi Jay,

My anxiety has been through the roof I have my mother going into surgery on Thursday as she is going through breast cancer and is having a masteconomy which will hopefully clear all her cancer.

My anxiety is up and down at the moment because there is so much going on and sometimes it becomes to much, my partner has been greatly supportive but sometimes finding that strength to be strong for loved ones can be a very emotional roller coaster.

Thank you for your kind words.

[BballJ]

Hi Bearess72,

Sorry to hear about you mum, hope she pulls through with flying colours and it all goes well 🙂

Anxiety always rears it's head when we are the most busiest... believe it or not these are times where your strength grows and the way you tell I think is when it feels like the world is crashing around you and you are still standing... you are building character which down the track you will look back on and see how this situation made you stronger.

My best,

Jay

[Lisa2]

Hey Bearess,

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope all goes well with your mums surgery, I know this must be a a difficult time.

I can completely relate to feeling an inability to function normally everyday and how it can get us so down to the extent of staying stagnant and stuck.

One thing that I find that helps me with my anxiety is living each day as if they are "water tight compartments". Don't let memories and experiences of the past or worries about the future "leek into your water tight compartment of today. This helps me lower my anxiety.

Also, as said above sometimes it takes some time to find the right therapist to help you in a way you need. You always have the option of trying a new therapist. Also, what has helped me so, so much is actually self help YouTube videos and it may help you too, if you haven't already done so. One particular YouTube channel which has got me through some difficult times is called - Infinate Waters (diving deep).

It sounds like you are making steps to help yourself not feel so anxious surrounding bad weather, like surrounding yourself with people. My sister always tells me, in every situation in life we can only do our best with the circumstances at the time and that is good enough. We can only try and it seems like you are taking control of your situation and trying different things which I think is great. Carry on pushing forward, trying different things and seeing what works for you.

My best,

Lisa

[1113]

Hi bearess72,

I've been trying for so long to get rid of anxiety.

Environmental issues can play a huge roll in anxiety.

I find it's best to find the cause of anxiety and find out how you can stop it.

If I feel anxious i tend to stay away from places that would cause even more.

The other top tip is to breathe slowly. Constantly practise relaxation so you have a recall memory when it hits hard.

I also find walking helps to keep your body fit.

Thanks for allowing me to post here

Peace

Matt