Anxiety at work

[Guest_63065509]

Have been stood down with pay at work because of a complaint made. This is the first time something like this has ever happened to me and I feel like I have no one to talk to about it without judging me. I am so scared what it may mean for me. I have financial obligations to meet. I don’t even want to tell my family or friends what has happened because I feel so horrible about myself. 

[Croix]

Dear New Member~

Welcome here to  the forum -a non judgmental place where I'm sure others have been in the same situation.

I have been in the situation where a complaint against me went to a formal hearing, fortunately the matter was dismissed. However in the  interim I felt much the same stresses and anxiety as you.

I found the following did help,

the first being no matter if htere is substance to the complaint or not to get an advocate to put your case. Use someone with expereince in this area, it may not be a lawyer but could be a professional industrial advocate.

This person's experence brought up favorable matters I'd never have thought of.

Secondly I'd confide in at least one of your family, so htat you are not alone and can be given support. If you are loved the matter will not seem as important as your welfare.

The third thing was a visit to a GP, explain the situation and the stress and probably sleeplessness you are going though. You may well be given temporary medication until the matter is resolved.

To you htis may seem a huge deal, something that could change your life, in fact it may not be as serious as you believe. Talking with someone else might reduce this fear.

If you would like ot say how you get on that would be great

Croix

[smallwolf]

hello and welcome.

Just to add my 2c to what Croix said ...

I am aware this is an anonymous space, where you can write and talk about what happened and get a response ... hopefully positive etc. And this is very different from telling someone that is close to you. Perhaps part of that is fear as to their reaction. Now while I have not been in your position, there was a time when I know my wife saw something that had been written down by my psychologist and this sheet of paper was at my home. To make a long story much shorter, I spoke to my wife about what was written on  that paper and was a weight off my back. I also knew she was on my team. So I am unsure of your situation, friends, and family, and how they would react.

What you’re feeling is a very human reaction to uncertainty. When something like this happens for the first time, it can shake your confidence and make you want to hide, but it doesn’t say anything about your worth or your character.

I am guessing that you are still being paid? and nothing final has been decided? Give yourself permission to breathe and to reach out for support while the process plays out. Listening if you want to chat more...