Anxiety and eating

[Romy]

Hi all, 

I have anxiety which has been managed for years with medication. For the most part it is very well controlled, I haven’t had a big flare up for awhile until now. I had been talking to a guy I met online for a few months, we went on 2 dates, I had a great time. He is really sweet and I was open with my nerves/anxiety and he was completely supportive. He however said from the start he just wanted casual and was not ready for a serious relationship right now. This suddenly sent thoughts running through my head and I freaked out as I just don’t think I can do the casual thing. I ended things because I don’t think I can see someone if there’s no chance we will ever be together. It ended amicably and openly, we said we might reconnect in the future and try again when we are both ready. Well now i am absolutely riddled with anxiety. I’ve realised how terrified I am of having my heartbroken like my first relationship. My thoughts run non stop, I cry every day and I’m struggling to eat. I feel stupid for ending things, I feel I should have just gone with the flow but I don’t know how to do that. I have an appointment with my psychologist on Monday which I’m looking forward to as we have much to discuss. Can anyone else relate to dating anxiety and does anyone have success stories? There’s nothing I want more than to get married and have children one day. 

[ecomama]

Hey Romy and welcome to the forums! 

CONGRATU freaking LATIONS for ending that farce of a nothing liaison with a person set on using you. 

You FELT that and exited pronto, WOW! WELL DONE YOU!

No, we do NOT have to put up with "less than", no! NEVER. 

I'm so freaking excited that you did this! You have no idea lol. 

But instead of being SO PROUD of yourself, you're spiralling downwards? 

This BRILLIANT and COURAGEOUS act SAVED YOU. 
Use this experience to EMPOWER YOU. 

You are a woman worthy of the greatest kind of love and relationship. 
HE KNEW THIS. 
He wanted to give 3% and get 100%. No. 
That's all on him, he's a flickwad. lol. 
But that's HIS choice to live like that. I'm just glad he was honest with you from the get go. 

I'm old but deliriously happy. I've married some toads for sure (1 at a time lol!), but when I totally LET GO and passionately pursued MY own life, PASSIONATELY, I met one 15O%er man. 

Follow your passions and what makes you HAPPY! 
This an antidote to ALL negative things. 

Love EM