Tired.

[Jd1998]

The past few weeks I have been feeling tired. Only leaving my room for school and to eat. I sleep whenever I can and I feel like crap all the time.

I'm always the one there for others and no one is ever there for me. My whole life it's been the same way. I always put other people's problems before my own and it drains me. And now I feel like all my own emotions and problems and issues have just piled up and I feel trapped and lonely and helpless. When I see friends I always put on a brave face because they're always going through something and I need to be strong for them.

Im so sick of feeling this way and its building up inside me. Please

[Zeal]

Hi Jd1998,

Welcome to the forum!

I'm sorry to hear that you're not feeling like yourself lately. You sound like a self-sacrificing person who has a lot of empathy for others. While this is great, as you've identified, it's led to you feeling tired and helpless. If you don't mind me asking, have you felt this way before? I am very glad you have come to this forum early for help, rather than trying to push on for months while feeling this way. Some people don't seek help for years.

Do you live at home with your parents? Having a close relationship with parents is important. For me, being able to talk to my Mum and have the support of my parents helps me so much when I'm feeling overwhelmed or unhappy.

If the emotional state you've described continues, you may develop depression. Going to your doctor (GP) and describing how you've been feeling is a great idea. See if a parent can drive you there. This way, you can get help before you develop a mental illness. Many people wait so long that their symptoms become ingrained, whereas you have the chance to help yourself now 🙂

If you'd like to talk through how you're feeling right now, you are welcome to call beyondblue's 24/7 helpline on 1300 22 4636.

It would be great to hear back from you!

Best wishes,

SM

[Narniakid]

Hi JD1998,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for finding the courage to reach out to us.

I'm sorry to hear about how you're feeling. It is tough being a nice person sometimes. I often get called "too nice" and I never know how to say no to people or things, and often end up over-committed to people and tasks that don't give anything back.

Are you close with your parents or a sibling? A source of support, particularly a family member, can be really helpful, particularly as school and friends can often leave us feeling stressed out or upset. Like SM, I often seek advice and support from my mother when I'm feeling low, and I encourage you to reach out to a family member if you haven't already done so.

Are your friendships perhaps one-sided? Are they always looking for support but never giving back? Do you invite them to things but they don't invite you? Are you always the first person to message them? School kids can be shallow and self-centred, as they are simply trying to figure themselves out as a person, but that can leave you, as a friend, feeling a bit excluded or pushed to the side. Consider talking to your friends about how you're feeling, as they may just be oblivious, and if they still brush you off, then they're probably not worth having as friends.

Best wishes,

Crystal

[geoff]

hi Jd, the brave face we put on when we are with our 'friends' eventually gets harder and harder to keep this false facade from happening and there will come a time when you won't be able to pretend and when this happens depression will be upon you and this is when help is needed.
It's such a difficult job to help people when you aren't feeling well yourself, because at the back of your mind you keep asking yourself 'what about me, and why don't they care for me'.
When you only leave your room for a couple of reasons and feel like crap, then it must be time for you to talk to your parents and your school counsellor, so that you will get professional help, starting with your doctor. Geoff.

[Jazzrl01]

Hi Jd1998,

I know exactly how you feel with being that tierd. I have been diagnosed with depression for more than a year now and it sucks and makes you so tired and drained, which makes everyday life so much harder, I understand. If you haven't already it would help to speak to someone, maybe a phycologist or a doctor, it really helps to talk to someone who can actually help you. Also, I've been feeling especially tierd too lately. I struggle to get out of bed every morning for school and haven't been for a full week in a while. Anyway, that was a few weeks ago and somehow I managed to start getting up for school. My phycologist helped me A LOT with this. Talking to someone about some different strategies to stop you from being tierd will help greatly. For example; I've learned that feeling tired means you need to be more active, when you are endorphins are released to bring happiness. So when you're that tierd (it sounds like you're getting enough sleep each night) sleeping more will just make you so tired that you never have the energy or motivation to do anything but stay in bed. Also I know how you feel with feeling like all your emotions bottle up. I swear I feel like that every few weeks. If you know someone who has a shoulder to cry on it helps, just letting your emotions out will make you feel so much better after (if you do it in a safe way).

I hope what I said has helped, sorry I couldn't really give you any proper advice except for talk to someone...

Anyway, hope you feel better soon 🙂 xxx

[teenytiny]

Hey gorgeous,

I can totally relate to what you're going through. I continually feel like this. It just shows that you are an incredible person that cares deeply about others and that people truly trust you enough to confide in you. It does drain you, both physically and mentally, it honestly sucks.

Possibly, try keeping a journal of your emotions and thoughts as a way of expressing them instead of bottling them up or find a teacher, family member or a helpline such as Kids Help Line or headspace to talk about your feelings. I am still personally working on this, on talking to people about it and it is a very difficult thing to do but, you are have done great by coming on here and saying this. I am proud of you 🙂 Another way, is to find something you enjoy doing to relieve stress. Whether it be dancing, writing, going for a run, reading, drawing, writing songs or playing a musical instrument, do it and give it all you've got!

Sorry, I don't have much but, I hope you feel better and don't hesitate to reach out to me or anyone cause we all want you to happy. xx