Thoughts

[Young girl]

I've been feeling lost I think lately. I'm a mum and a wife but I feel like that's everything I am and never anything else. I'm tired all the time but I feel like I don't do enough to be like that. I look at my siblings and they all have jobs and even starting to travel I'm just wondering what my life would have been like if I didn't have kids. Maybe I would be travelling to Italy with my sister maybe I would be in better shape, prettier even.. this is it for me. I'm the eldest of four in my family and I've grown up taking care of everyone else but I know I need to take care of me but who am I if I'm not taking care of someone else's hurt? This is what I've been thinking lately I feel like I'm in a fog of all these kinds of thoughts. 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I'm wondering how I can turn this around because in fact you have the toughest but most rewarding job among you and your siblings. These days young adults yearn to travel and put off bearing children which 40 years ago was the opposite. The opposite, having kids young, has some great advantages-

• You have a smaller age gap so in your mid 40's you're friendship with your children can be stronger.
• You can travel when you get older when money is less of a problem
• You're not gambling on the luck needed to bear children late in the child bearing years which is underestimated and problematic

So apart from that it could be time to spend a little time with a friend or two and have a makeover or hairstyle. You reap what you sow!.  Furthermore we kind ones do reach out to others and forget that "charity begins at home". Catch up with your GP as sleep deprivation is a threat to good mental health and is also underestimated as to it's overall negative effect.

TonyWK