Struggling to find my people

[ceres]

I'm just about to finish my first year of university, and I have met a lot of new people this year. A lot of them are nice, and I do enjoy hanging out with them, but we are just quite different and I want to meet people who are more similar to me, and to be frank - who I like more. 

Is there anyone who has had success forming or joining long-lasting friend groups after the first year of uni? I'm worried that it'll be harder to make different friends going into second year when people already know each other. 

I also have friends from high school, but my group fell apart in year 12, so while I have my best friend and a couple of other people who I regularly catch up with, I don't have a big group of friends who I can regularly see. 

I am quite a sociable person (although I do struggle with anxiety which can make talking to new people hard), so this is something I really want. 

TLDR; I have friends but I want a friendship group. How can I make or join a group of friends in second year uni?

I would really appreciate hearing someones experience with this!

[Croix]

Dear Ceres~

Welcome back to the forum. From what you  are saying now and what you said before friendships are very important to you, and perhaps you feel the loss if you do not have a fair number to be with.

What you can do at uni depends a lot on if you go on-campus or if it is all on-line. In the  latter case it is pretty hard as you do not actually meet people except maybe in study groups.

On campus the scope is wider, and you may find fellow classmates are a good place to interact, and see what develops. You also have the opportunity to join groups and societies. From sport to drama, and all in between, plus the Union of course.. I was a terrible actor but enjoyed being in the drama scene and worked the lights.

As I'm sure you know any friendship takes two people, and while you can show that you are open to more contact they have to be interested too. As a result it is not straightforward and depends upon a degree of luck.

Incidentally I hope you manged to resolve your dilemma wiht your best freind and it worked out well.

From my expereince second year is starting to get serious, however many students still seem to have plenty of time for social activities

Croix