Peer Pressure

idkwhy
Community Member

I have choir at school every Tuesday after school.

My best friend is also in the choir, it used to be good until now.

Once I was feeling tired and didn't want to go, so she suggested we can skip one or two practices every term just for taking a break and hanging out. So we did and it went great, we just chilled by our lockers and ate snacks, even finishing off due homework.

But now since she knows how fun skipping can be she is asking me to skip with her almost EVERY rehearsal! When I do go to rehearsal with her, she sighs, rolls her eyes and keeps on complaining to me about how boring it is, and how much fun it would be if we skipped. All of her negative vibes are making me sick and even dislike choir. Sometimes I wished she was not there. I feel very insecure when we skip more than twice a term and she forces me to skip even more rehearsals, all of the making excuses up and stuff is starting to stress for me. She's also a close and important friend of my though so I do not want to make it weird between us, she's very stubborn so if I say anything she will probably tell me how lame I have become and that I'm being too serious.

What do I do and what should I tell her? Plz help.

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Terry73
Valued Contributor
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Simply tell her that you enjoy being a part of the choir, and you dont mind taking a break every so often by skipping a class or 2 each term, but you want to not miss out on too much in the choir either.

Communication is the key, and if she is a decent friend, she will respect your wishes too.

I hope it works out for you

Terry

LavenderTea
Community Member

Heya!

Thanks for your post... peer pressure can be really hard.

I definitely agree with Terry73... communication is key!

The best way to go is to work out what it is that you want - you say that you've started to dislike choir because of your friend... work out if that's true for you, or if it's just something that you're feeling because your friend doesn't like going... and try to explain it to your friend.

It's important not to feel pressured to do something you don't want to do so if you're not comfortable with skipping tell her that in a way that's not blaming, because sometimes that can make people feel defensive.

It sounds to me that your friend really just likes hanging out with you... maybe when you try to talk to her, suggest that instead of skipping choir, you could hang out together another day, or sometime on the weekend even.

Hopefully that helps!!

LT.