Parents fighting. Again.

[anonymouszebra]

My parents have gotten into another argument, I feel no one is right, both are wrong. This has gone on all my life, but I feel like I've had enough. It will never ever stop. All I want is a family that functions well and sorts out disagreements in a civil way. Nope, I have two parents who think they're doing better than the other, and that they're more important. Im stuck with for my entire life, and I feel like whenever these two are in a spat or are not talking to each other, I can't be productive at all. I simply feel helpless. Neither of them are thinking of me at all in this. Im just stuck. I feel my life could be perfect if only these two got along with each other without these insane arguments in which they yell at the top of their lungs and doing give a single stuff about their children.

[Sophie_M]

Hi anonymouszebra,

We are sorry to hear that things have been so difficult for you at home with your parents fighting. We understand this must be so hard for you, so please remember  that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

If you would like to talk to someone, the Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Helpline. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under.

We hope that you will find some comfort here on the forums. Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.

[geoff]

Hello Anonymouszebra, being in a position like this makes you feel very uncomfortable and unsure of what to do, but if it happens regularly over the smallest minute issue then it's best to not try and break them up.

The safest option for you is to go to a friends house and if you can also take your siblings because your parents need to understand that behaving this way is not acceptable for their family.

You can leave a note telling them how you are feeling and if they don't want to improve their relationship then perhaps they should about separating while having different types of counselling for each other.

Sometimes couple counselling is suggested, however, in some circumstances, it may be better to have individual therapy and then couple counselling and I say this because both are going to be adamant they are in the right.

If you and your siblings can contact Kids Helpline as Sophie has suggested this may help you.

This is an unfortunate situation for you but hope you can get back to us whenever you are available.

Take care.

Geoff.

[anonymouszebra]

Thanks for the reply.

I don't really have a getaway that is accessible right now, and currently they are not speaking to each other, which is causing a build up of tension since they are both in the house. It's to an extent that I don't have the will to complete my homework, or do any activity due to stress it's putting.

[Sophie_M]

Hey anonymouszebra,

We appreciate you reaching back on the forums. We’ve noticed that you have started to share your journey in your other thread, I don't know where this is going. So that our community can best understand your current situation and provide the most appropriate support, we're going to close this thread so that you can continue this discussion over there.

Thanks for being open here, anonymouszebra. We hope the kind words and understanding of this community on your threads has brought some comfort.

Kind regards, 

Sophie M