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[alana-jane]

Hi im new to this so dont really know how to start so ill just start , im 21 years old  with 2 kids married and have my own house i literally have nothing to complain about in that market except having no life whatsoever i have no close friends due to me converting to islam 4 years ago when i married my husband , i go out once a week to my grandmothers house and the rest of the time im home literally 24/7 i feel like i have no connection with my husband anymore because hes never home hes always at work at the gym or out with friends i try to tell him how i feel then i just dont because i feel like im just complaining to much ,then it comes out in rage after it builds up after a while .. i feel as if i need to go out and just get out of my own head but then i just sit and think i have nowhere to go anyway so i stay home and then my mind just wanders again , theres alot more things on my mind but i think ill stop there for now..

[Paul]

Hey alana-jane

Sounds like things are a bit tough at the moment, especially when your mind wanders and you have nothing to stimulate you or occupy your thoughts.

I wonder if a parent's group at the kid's school might interest you. If not, a new hobby or some group where you can make friends and satisfy the need for social interaction. You mentioned your husband goes to the gym and goes out with his friends. He is satisfying his need for social interaction, it sounds like it's your turn to follow his lead.

If the idea of a parent's group isn't of interest, try "meetup" there's a website and a smartphone app. Meetup is where groups of people organise "meetups" based on any topic you can imagine! I ride a motorbike, so I'm in a bike meetup group. I also like to sew, so I'm in a sewing meetup group.

What are your thoughts?

Paul

[Paul]

... Also regarding not feeling the connection to your husband. I wonder if you were to do a few social activities to fulfil that need, see how it goes and then have a chat with your husband. It could be that once you are getting out and about the relationship with your husband will naturally flow better.

Paul