no where to go

[ekatakekatakekat]

hi

so i sort of have no where to go and i don't know what to do. i don't have friends or family's houses to sleep at. im 19 so im too old for any foster care type services for kids (im probably too old really for a youth forum too but this doesnt really fit anywhere else) i dont know where else to go to for advice.

kind of scared

[Guest_322]

Hi there,

No wonder you're feeling frightened as not knowing where to go must be very distressing. You're doing it tough indeed.

Sorry, I have to admit that I'm not familiar with emergency accomodation. Can I suggest you try contacting charities, such as, Vinnies, Salvos, etc as they should be able to advise where to go and possibly offer financial assistance?

Oh and you're definitely not too old for this forum (it's for the under 25s). I'm 20 myself.

Sometimes caring BB members who are 25+ respond to Young People threads to offer support, which I personally- and many others- appreciate.

Hang in there.

Dottie x

[gld]

Hi ekatakekatakekat,

Dottie has given you some great places to approach for some support and if one is unable to assist with your needs please continue to approach others. Sometimes church groups could assist with temporary accommodation until you could find yourself some permanent housing. If you contact lifeline 13 11 14 and discuss your current situation they may be able to give you some contact numbers to start the ball rolling.

As you have mentioned you are experiencing some challenging times and it is great you are reaching out for support during this time. It is very important you continue to do so as you need to keep yourself safe and if you experience knockbacks with things it is vital you keep moving forward to find the support you need.

Beyondblue are always there for you on their call line 1300224636.

I am holding onto hope you are going to find the support you need.

Hugs, Hope and Support from myself and others out there,

Gen

[ekatakekatakekat]

so i am back home again

i thought this time was more serious bc i came home and my mother had thrown away most of my stuff and was in the processes of dumping the rest of my clothes, but now they have let me back

i shouldnt complain because some people really are completely homeless and have it so much worse and they dont get to complain about it but then have a bed a week later

and i know i have it way better but i also dont know what to do in those times when i cant go home

see im not stupid, i dont know where or how to access them, but i know there are services or programs or whatever that could give me somewhere to stay, especially bc im still considered young(ish)

but i cant use them bc im not really homeless, i have a home...im just never allowed in it

i get kicked out a lot sometimes overnight or for days or a while longer & during that time i have no where to go, but then im allowed back, usually with conditions, but i still have a home again.

thats part of the reason i never went to my uni clqasses, i was emarresed it would be obvious with wearing the same stuff and having dirty hair and tired bags under my eyes and basiccally looking like crap not having books with me or got any work done

i dont know why they do it

its better for them to not have me around. so kicking me out makes sense

but they're my parents and parents love their children right, so wanting me to stay makes sense

but the latter doesn't fit and neither does the first one because they let me back. i think its a game to then? i dunno. i really dunno

my mother even made me dinner tonight, i thought maybe it was an attempt to bond or something and i was happy

it was a raw bacon and cheese sandwhich. raw bacon. i dont even eat meat cooked, let alone raw. and i hate cheese more than anything. she knows this. we fought again, i shouldnt have fought her on it but im stupid and i did and i asked her why and she played dumb then i cried which was weak and she laughed and we fought more

so i guess right now im not at home, im at macdonals my go to bc i live off of fries & wifi, but i think i can go back later

i just dont understand it. so im not homeless i just am temporarily unsheltered?

im not totally stupid i know its not normal for them to string me around but what other option do i have

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi ekatakekatakekat,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out.

You're definitely not too old to be here - the youth forum is for people up to 25 and then their post slides somewhere else so there's always room for you!

It sounds like you're going through a really tough time at the moment. Do you want to talk to us about it?

If you don't feel comfortable talking to us that's fine too - there's been a few phone numbers listed but you could also try online chat which is https://eheadspace.org.au/ for Headspace or https://kidshelpline.com.au/teens/get-help/webchat-counselling/ for Kids Help Line. Both are for ages up to 25 🙂

[loouuiiee]

dear ekatakekatakekat,

I was in a very similar situation as you when I was 19 years old; I'm the eldest child in my family and throughout my entire teenage years my parents were incredibly strict and would always kick me out of the house. I'd be homeless, they'd let me come back with 'conditions' and then, even tho I would follow their ridiculous requests as best I could they would find something else to be angry with me about and id be out on the street again... some of their 'conditions' were; I'm not allowed to get a part-time/after school job, I'm not allowed to use the internet (not even to do my homework .. which made getting through VCE extremely difficult!!), no talking to friends from school outside of school hours, obviously NO talking to BOYS, no going anywhere outside of school hours (I had to go to school, come home, stay home and then go to school again the next day; literally was not allowed to go ANYWHERE besides school and the family home), my parents took my bedroom door away so I had NO privacy .. 😞 I would have a home for a week, two weeks ... however long they managed to stay complacent for. But I always knew, soon enough, they would throw me out again, because that's just what they'd always done to me and ONLY me (my younger siblings have never had the same 'conditions' and 'consequences' as me)

I relied heavily on my ex-boyfriend to look after me... and now that he is gone I feel completely lost again.

I'm facing homelessness again .. having to give up my pets ... I'm terrified ive got nowhere to go... but I'm not ready to give up yet 🙂

My advice to you is to always try to take a step back.

I know its hard but maybe you can try what I'm doing at the moment; trying my best to bite my tongue when things get frustrating, taking a deep breath and keeping in mind a vision of what I want in life; what I'm fighting through all the struggles for 🙂 what your passionate about; something you really love!

I know it sounds far fetched but when I feel down I try to picture what it would feel like if all my dreams began to come true ... positive thinking ... day dreaming LOL try your hardest to picture being great when you feel your worst ❤️ believe in yourself

sometimes in life you are all you have

I know how that feels

but be strong ❤️ I believe we can both get through it

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi ekatakekatakekat,

Thanks for your post - sorry I didn't see it before.

I appreciate you letting us in on what's been going on for you and a little more about your situation.

I think it would be really helpful for you to find someone like a counsellor or support staff who can help navigate some of the Government services. I don't think it's about shelter for one night; I think it's about helping you stand on your own two feet with maybe government assistance so that you can look at getting your own place as well as your own stuff that won't be thrown away and food that's a bit better than raw bacon.

You said that you were at uni; if you're still there you could look at their support services; or trying to find someone in your area here - http://www.mindhealthconnect.org.au/mental-health-services The links to headspace e-counselling (in the earlier post) should also help so that they can link you in with the right people in your area.

I think from memory you said in an older post that talking to a GP was too hard and that you have nobody. I get that you have nobody. I think that it might take an enormous amount of courage to go and talk to someone, but I also think that if you can do this then they can help. I wish that I could recommend a service for you or help you do this but it just depends what area you're in.

I do know though that the services here aren't just for homeless people but are for anyone even those kind of in-between; you may have parents (well, we all do haha) but if they aren't being supportive then it's about finding people who can.

[ekatakekatakekat]

we have this 30+ yo caravan, its too old to move, and lives about 2.5 hours from our home, in the middle of no where

we used to come here after xhristmas when i was little. my parents offered to take me today, i thiught it was thwir attempt to bond &makeup for dissapearing on christmas day, and im desperate and stupid & even tho i say i hate them i wanna please them so i went

my parents took me here, we did whatever for a little while, i fell asleep, just woke up now (12am) and they are gone with the car.

i dont understand why they just dumped me here. are they coming back in a few days? am i being punished? i dunno

im not like stranded, theres a majorish countryish road nearbyish and town is only a 5 hour walk, i have data and a debit card, but i just dont get why they left me here.

i feel like theyre just messing with my head

[gld]

Hi ekatakekatkdekat,

I feel this confusion you are currently going through during this time understandable.

It is good that you have a working phone at present. Have you any other family or friends that could pick you up?

The world could improve greatly if we all could understand how others tic and why they do the things they do. So i feel the best way for me to live could be living my life the way i choose to live and make adjustments to do so.

As the online community are here to support you, there are supports that could be accessed to talk to 24/7 [1300224636, 131114].

Look after yourself and please avoid beating yourself up for others actions. Your own well being is more important than others lifestyles and actions.

Gen

[ekatakekatakekat]

so it turns out my parents were going away, and they didnt want me in the house so i guess they figured if they gave me somewhere to stay as opposed to telling me not to go home, i wouldnt just return when they left like the roach i am.

we were sposed to go away as a family, then they told me we couldnt afford it, now it turns out they are going (and bringing my brother who is older then me so its not like hes some kid they gotta bring) and just not bringing me.

also the roof of the caravan colapsed in those rains yesterday so now i am sleeping in a tent afterall