New school and no friends

[Lizeyloo]

Hi everyone, I am a 16 years old girl in year 11. I am finding it very hard to cope at the moment. I started at a new school this year thinking everything was going to change and get better but it is quite the opposite. I was partnered with someone to look after me at my new school but they ditched so now I am finding it very hard to find friends or any group to sit with. Every now and then I’ll ask to sit with a particular group but I feel unwanted and a nuisance to them as their table is full and I’m struggling to socialise as I am consistently worrying all the time. Often I will spend lunch times in the bathroom or go to the library but this continues to affect my mental health negatively. I am often referred to as very shy and quiet but when hearing this it tends to pull down my self esteem even more. I have recently gone through a friendship breakup at my old school and now I have virtually no friends left. The friendship breakup has particularly affected me as it has taken a toll on how I perceive myself. I don’t like who I am and which I was someone confident who made friends easily.I find myself lying in bed crying having no passion for life or to get out because I don’t feel worthy to anyone. I have my mum but she doesn’t completely understand what I’m going through, she’ll say I’m overreacting and doesn’t take mental health as seriously as I wish. I tell myself I sound selfish to be complaining when I know how lucky I am but I can’t help but cry knowing things aren’t changing and no one understands just how much I am struggling. If anyone could share tips it would be much appreciated. Thank you.

[james1]

Hello Lizeyloo,

Thanks for the reply. I love your attitude and I hope you can also see that we all value you here, even if it seems tough at school. Take care for now, and I hope you enjoy going to the gym. I also signed up this week after languishing for a while in my own inactivity!

James

[Guest_80179103]

Hi i’m also 16 and in year 11 and started at a new school this year as well thinking it would be different i have always struggled with school, i just wanted you to know that you are not alone and im going through the same thing im here for you, i was also put with a group on the first day and the second day i went they didn’t talk to me and all the other girls i had talked to on my first day were nice but on the second day they didn’t talk to me and didn’t even look at me and acted weird towards me so i completely understand how your feeling it’s not a good feeling at all it’s so hard starting at a new school especially starting in year 11 when everyone already has their friendship groups and best friends, i also went through a lot of friendship breakups at my old school, im so sorry i feel for you although i don’t have any tips i just still had to reply to let you know your not alone, im also so sorry that your mum doesn’t understand fully what your going through and how hard it is