Long term struggles

[Unsure_tbh]

So I have been in a long term relationship with a female for 4 years . During that time She has claimed to be supportive but gets mad over little things I do. (E.g not putting things in a specific order ). She also on atleast 3 occasions spoke to my depression to several of her friends without my consent and knowing how I feel about the subject (. I never publicise the fact of my mental health and keep it at a minimum as I don't want to be treated differently . recently she has seen a psych in regards to an issue happening when she was twelve. During this session I was called a narcissist from her conversation with the psychologist . I then approached her about it and she denies anything being sad negatively towards me nor does She deny giving the impression I am. And also denies suggesting I am in the first place , which is not true. As a week or so after the session , she "suggested " that I am a narcissis primarily due to her psychologist mentioning it. I would like help or already some second opinion as I am unable to handle this anymore and have had thoughts .

[Croix]

Dear Unsure tbh~

It can be pretty upsetting if your partner tells other people about your mental condition. It can make one wonder at times how much she cares to be so thoughtless. There may however be two sides to it. As you mentioned she has difficulties of her own and may be seeking support from friends as she is finding things about your condition plus her own hard to deal with. What do you think?

Getting mad over little things is really par for the course. I'd suggest there are more augments over trivial and small things in a relationship rather than the really big things. I don't really know why - maybe because the stakes are smaller. Is it possible to keep those things you mentioned in order for the sake of harmony?

Being accused of being an narcissist is not nice, and I'd be very hurt if it was me. It is however a technical term for a defined behavior pattern. If you are at all worried about your status then I'd suggest talking it over with your own doctor who should be able to set our mind at rest. That would be the best second opinion.

In any case what do you think about talking this over with your partner? Not just if she said it or not, - which oyu have already - but the underlying feelings or fears she may have had that might lead her to say such a thing. It may well be that it is something in relation to whatever happened when she was 12.

By the sound of it she would need your support, it must have been something to leave a mark on her.

You know you are welcome to talk things over here anytime.

Croix