long-term friendship ended over nothing?

Jamie C.
Community Member

When I was in primary school, I had this friend who I always thought was so amazing and funny, and we would do anything for each other. We started fighting in yr 7 and 8 and now in yr 9 she completely hates me for no reason, I know we fought in the previous years, but majority of the arguments started from me being upset because of her lying or acting selfish towards me or other people, so really it should be me who hates her, not the other way around.

My best friend is also friends with this girl, which makes most social situations awkward and difficult to contribute to, especially since she is so outgoing and loud and I'm the complete opposite. She recently invited my friend and a bunch of other people to go to the shopping center/mall with her, and when my friend asked if i could come, they ended up in a massive argument. Even if I was invited, I probably wouldn't go anyway because I am so introverted, but the fact that this is now becoming an issue for my friend as well makes me worry, I don't want her to end up in the same situation as me.

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geoff
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hello Jamie, it is always very sad when two people who were close end up being the opposite, unfortunately it does happen, especially if a person is extroverted and wanting all the attention she can get.
She will be making friends and losing them just as quickly, because everything has to go her way or it's not done.
I would be talking to your best friend and ignore this other girl, because she will eventually end up with no friends, sometimes it's not convenient for people to feel comfortable being told what to do. Geoff.