Hey cc182,
I'm sorry you feel that way. The BB forums can be a really helpful tool, and a space to connect with people, but sometimes posts get bumped down seeing as there are just so many conversations happening on here... but we are here, and we are listening.
Firstly, I want to say... you're doing a great job! The fact that you're experiencing these feelings, and still making an effort to go out and see your friends is fantastic... don't stop doing that.
With regards to your patterns of thinking, it's important that you've already identified these negative thoughts. A lot of what we learn about in my course is that thoughts can influence emotions and behaivours, and that this can become a vicious cycle when an individual is experiencing negative thoughts. The important thing is to understand that, these thought's aren't necessarily true, and that by changing these thoughts, you might be able to change your feelings and behaviours.
In order to work on changing the negative thoughts, you can start with one - for example, your friends don't like you - and consider evidence against this. Think about times when you've really felt like your friends have liked you, and things that might suggest that your thoughts might not necessarily be true. For example, you might consider the fact that your friends invite you out, or include you while going out to mean that they do actually like you.
Sometimes it's easier to do this activity with someone else (e.g. a family member) so that they can help you challenge these negative thoughts, because sometimes it can be hard for you to do it yourself.
Hope this helps,
LT.
