Lies. Lies. Lies.

Shannanabanana
Community Member

hello i'm so sorry to post again in such a short space of time but I really want to know if there is anyone else having something like this happen.

When I talk to someone I tend to lie. A lot. About stupid things things that don't even matter. I don't even consciously do this the lies just slip out of my mouth. If someone questions it I just cover it up. Even when my mum asks me if I did something my first response is to lie and then I correct it and tell her the truth. I don't know why this happens does this happen to other people?

Thanks for reading

Shannon

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pipsy
Community Member
Hi Shannanabanana.  A lot of people pretend they are living an exciting life when in fact they live (in their eyes, rather humdrum lives).  Is this the case with you?  I suppose when you were younger (don't know your age now), but as a youngster, rather than admit to doing or saying something we know is wrong, it seems easier to lie to cover up rather than face the consequences of our actions.  Unfortunately, when we do get found out the punishment is greater.   Do you feel that your life is so boring, that you have to tell stories to make it seem exciting?  Then, of course, when you're questioned about something you may have said, you then have to fabricate something else.  You must have an incredible memory to be able to answer any questions about what you may have told someone.  Have you thought about discussing this compulsion with your Dr or asking for a referral to a psychologist.   Lying is a compulsion, and needs addressing.  If you can discuss this with a Dr, you need to be TOTALLY honest.  If you're going to lie to a Dr, you are wasting his time and yours.       

Thanks So much for responding. 

I am 17 years of age and yes I've always lied when I was younger it makes me cringe when I see things I used to write. Such tiny lies but they made the statement worse. No I don't feel the need to big my self up I don't think...

Like I mentioned they just slip out completely unintentionally. I wish it didn't happen. I've been trying to force myself to go to the GP in the hope I will open up and just let everything helpful spill out but I haven't quite made it yet. My Gemini personality (sorry if you don't believe/agree with astrology) really shows when it comes to things like this if I was to go to the GP I would need to know what they were going to say so I could have a script, for a long time I didn't know why I felt like that then I realised recently its a power thing. I don't want to feel out of control of what might happen in there. On the other hand i'm incredibly fearful that I won't say anything and the GP will hate me. Nut right?

I didn't know it was a compulsion all though that does make sense given I have little control over it.

I'm sorry to ramble like that it feels nice to get it out a little.

Thanks again.

Shannon.

Dear Shannon.  I do understand a bit about astrology.  Gemini (the twins) means you basically have a double personality.  If you were to go to a Dr, it would be a good idea to write down a bit about yourself, so the Dr understands you feel a bit of a double-sided personality.  Until you get to see a Dr having a script of what he/she might or might not say is not really possible.  Till Dr talks to you, he has no idea what the problem is.  The Dr won't hate or judge you, he will try to help you.  The power struggle you're experiencing is within you.  Part of you wants to be honest, the other part wants to keep up the subterfuge.  A Dr might recommend a psychologist to help you gain the upper hand over the part of you that compels you to lie.  If you don't get some help soon, you will find yourself in all sorts of bother with future gf, possible wife, children etc.  Overcome the compulsion and ask Dr for help.  I would also tell your mum you're trying to get help.  It's possible she understands, if she doesn't, once you've started counselling or whatever, she may be able to accompany you.  This way, she can work with you.  My ex is a Libra and he spends hours looking at why and why not he should do something.  Trouble is, with him ,he always looks for worse case scenario. 

Thank you so much for this reply Pipsy!

Your words are what I've been trying to get out, I haven't been able to come up with the right way to say it. You've said what I can't quite articulate thank you. This helps me figure out what I need to say.

Thank you again

Shannon

dear Shannon, why do you think people lie and what would you think about your best mate saying that he wasn't dating your g/friend behind your back, when in fact he was, and then what about your g/friend trying to cover it up, so in fact 2 people were lying to you.
I'm only saying this an example, because if you want to trust someone and expect that you can trust them but are led on by their lies until you finally find out that they had deceived you, then opportunities, friendship and trust have all gone and you are left by yourself. Geoff.