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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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youngsadgirl i dont know anymore? what do i do?
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The past 4 years i have noticed a change in myself not for the better but the past year i have noticed myself getting worse by the day i feel so alone worthless stressed angry but sad i find myself crying all the time and im not even 100% sure why i ... View more

The past 4 years i have noticed a change in myself not for the better but the past year i have noticed myself getting worse by the day i feel so alone worthless stressed angry but sad i find myself crying all the time and im not even 100% sure why i feel the way i do i have a wonderful family and a great partner i feel i cant tell anyone how i feel because i have great things in life they will think im being stupid why do i feel so worthless shitty and sad all the time why do i find myself crying ALL the time and how do i fix it

Shannanabanana Emotionally Colorblind?
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I'm not 100 percent on what the term means but it feels like the right description of what I am. I say I feel these things but I don't really feel anything. I can tell you to a tee what it's supposed to look like. I'm REALLY good at reading people I ... View more

I'm not 100 percent on what the term means but it feels like the right description of what I am. I say I feel these things but I don't really feel anything. I can tell you to a tee what it's supposed to look like. I'm REALLY good at reading people I can recognise the bodily reaction to emotions easily but I don't feel it. This isn't normal I know that all I can really feel is fear and related feeling. It doesn't make sense that I can't understand why I can't feel these things I see. Even if I pick up on what someone else is feeling it doesn't bother me Thanks for reading

ave_maria Lack of Empathy
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I'm not sure if this is the right thread to post this in or even the right place, but I'm confused and miserable so I don't know where else to go right now. I basically have a lot of issues caring about basically anything - mostly, people. If my frie... View more

I'm not sure if this is the right thread to post this in or even the right place, but I'm confused and miserable so I don't know where else to go right now. I basically have a lot of issues caring about basically anything - mostly, people. If my friends tell me about their issues I won't care and any advice or help I offer I do so because I think it's the right move to make in the conversation. My parents had extremely shitty lives but every time they tell me about this I can't care either, and any emotional distress I get from those conversations is because they're either pushing me too far or trying to make me open up about my feelings, which I'm never comfortable doing. Some days it feels like I only want friends so I have someone to talk to. When my parents tell me they love me it feels extremely disingenuous. I guess logically it must be true, since they tell me so often, but I have a hard time understanding what they mean, why they would or how that would feel. Similarly romance novels confuse me because I don't understand the concept of love as they portray it. I don't understand how you could ever feel that way about someone. I don't get why you'd need it. I tried telling my parents about this, but my father says I'm too young to be depressed (19) and my mother thinks I'm making it up, which might be my fault since I tried to withhold information for as long as possible and I've always found it difficult accepting help, so when she tried to talk about it with me, I told her no. Actually, coming to talk about it here was my big step forward. It's been months of poking around mental help sites. Signing up today was a big deal. A lot of sites I've seen say this means I'm a psychopath but I don't think that's true, since this has only been an issue for the last few years. I feel pretty strongly that there's something wrong with me. I could be wrong, and just be selfish like my mother said, but tonight wasn't the first time I'd broken down because I was scared that I didn't care about the people around me, or about myself. Sorry if this isn't the right place to post this.

Max9919 22yom, need some life advice please
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Well as the title says, I'd appreciate some life advice if that is ok. I'm 22 and don't get along with my family at all, our personalities are just at odds really and they said they want me gone soon. I don't have any mates or a girlfriend and I find... View more

Well as the title says, I'd appreciate some life advice if that is ok. I'm 22 and don't get along with my family at all, our personalities are just at odds really and they said they want me gone soon. I don't have any mates or a girlfriend and I find it hard making relationships with people for some reason, I've had this problem since I was a kid. I work as much as I can and go to the gym/go running to stay out of the house for as long as possible but I'm pretty miserable at the moment. I try making friends but everyone is already busy with their own life. I haven't had a girlfriend for years and I find it hard trying to talk to girls, I never know what to say to them. I've searched some stuff up online but there are so many opinions when it comes to dating it does my head in haha, like no one takes what you say at face value. I don't know if I'm a loser or if I'm ugly or if I'm just a boring person. I'm in great shape because I exercise a lot and I have very good hygiene, but I think my personality might be bland. All this stuff has been stressing me out heaps lately. I want to find a decent job and move out and find a decent girl to live with. I don't have any guidance because I have no one to talk to or get life advice from and everyone judges me without giving me a fair shake. Maybe some women could give me advice on how to actually talk to girls? I've never played any mixed sports either, just footy and stuff. Really confused at the moment and it's depressing me because I feel useless/worthless as a person. Worthless because no one obviously values me or my company.

Domini Insecurities Ruining Relationship
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Hello. I am 19 years old (turning 20 soon), and I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years. I have extremely severe self confidence / trust issues, and I tend to take them out on him quite intensely. I always find myself almost out of habit ... View more

Hello. I am 19 years old (turning 20 soon), and I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years. I have extremely severe self confidence / trust issues, and I tend to take them out on him quite intensely. I always find myself almost out of habit interrogating him about what he thinks of other females in regards to their appearance, always giving me the auto pilot answer of "no I think you're the prettiest", but for some reason that never satisfied the stubborn voice of anxiety in my head. When we go out for lunch / dinner, or even watching TV together at home and a commercial comes on, I watch him like a hawk to make sure he isn't 'checking out' anyone else, and if it comes across like he is, I feel this stabbing pain in my chest, my heart starts beating really fast, can feel the blood rushing through my body, and I literally have to resort to heavy breathing to stop myself from bursting into tears. I have also developed this terrible habit of going through what he's following on Instagram, and he loves skateboarding but a lot of the skateboarding pages he follows contain girls with large bottoms posing sexually to advertise the brand. Even though it's obvious that he only followed it for the videos of the skating (which he also states), I can't seem to shake thoughts like "he would see that and be wishing I had a butt like that" or "that I look like that". This provokes that same stabbing in the chest feeling. The interrogating often leads to fighting and it's killing me because I can't seem to break these habits of letting my insecurities break through, and he's beginning to say things like he feels he should let me go because clearly [he] doesn't make me happy in spite of always telling me I'm the most beautiful and he never looks elsewhere etc., which I don't blame him, I must be awful to live with. Today, things came to a head and he ended up revealing (at the top of his lungs) that he in fact does think other girls are attractive when he goes out, and always has but has just been lying to try and make me feel better. He was saying it really harshly like "clearly you aren't the only attractive girl!" etc. I am confused by my own thoughts and actions as it seems this is what I wanted to hear all along to validate my self loathing, but now that I've heard it I feel betrayed and ugly and not good enough and in so much pain, but I understand he must be at the end of his tether. I literally cannot control my thoughts, I don't know what to do anymore.

architecture_student Insomnia and a lot on my mind
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Hello, I am battling with insomnia, I am a 24yr old architecture student in 5h year. I am strongly perfectionist and have a long history of anxiety (and insomnia) due to being gay (out and mentally resolved)... I have lost a loved one very recently a... View more

Hello, I am battling with insomnia, I am a 24yr old architecture student in 5h year. I am strongly perfectionist and have a long history of anxiety (and insomnia) due to being gay (out and mentally resolved)... I have lost a loved one very recently and there are many other heavy memories that dont let me relax. Why can't I let myself sleep? Why do I do it and how can I stop it? I recently had to visit my grandma with my dad overseas, before my uni semester, due to her aggressive stomach carcinoma which has resulted in her passing away during our stay.......I am in high fear of flying, dead-scared of dying in a fiery ball so I tend to shake from anxiety even when the plane cruises fine. Did that during most of the 21 hour flight (x2).....my dad has been diagnosed with deep vein trombosis on arrival and been admitted to hospital for 17 days out of the 21 day stay (neither I nor he was there when his mother died, neither was I with my dad-which fills me with guilt)........a family argument has taken place immediately before my grandma's death for inheritance where I was the figure for mediation due to my dad's condition between my distant and my close relatives, which made me feel overwhelmed and furious........Here, I am consciously afraid of graduation and getting a job as I am afraid of failing, being ridiculed for failing and that anxiety will not make it a long career........I have been cut from student benefits and got little money to survive from as I have extended my degree by an extra year to finish off subjects that fell victim to my anxiety. I work casually which is not even enough for my rent; job seeking benefits mean I need to search jobs, which I greatly been avoiding........I feel weak, out of energy but I am more scared of insomnia than anything else and these thoughts rotate in my head like a carousel before I try to sleep. I am aware that all these happening over a 3 week period is a lot, but I feel that feeling anxious/depressed is luxurious these days as life can (and will) bury me underground too before it's time. I just want to know the reason why I wake myself up with a dose of spasms and negative thoughts at the point of falling asleep. Why am I attacking myself exactly then? I almost feel scared of relaxing and letting it all just go off my mind. It might be a very complex reason that I might never find out the real answer to... Greg

Zeraxero Trying to improve but losing the war
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Hi my name is Hayden and I have had depression, anxiety and border line personality disorder for more than half my life. I'm 21 and since I was 16 I have been completely isolated on a farm with no friends or even a caring family. I'm morbidly obese a... View more

Hi my name is Hayden and I have had depression, anxiety and border line personality disorder for more than half my life. I'm 21 and since I was 16 I have been completely isolated on a farm with no friends or even a caring family. I'm morbidly obese and I feel that it is a large part of my self loathing. Even before I was 16 I was physically, emotionally and sexually harassed at school and no one cared. I'm trying to turn my life around and getting my weight and depression handled go hand in hand. Since I have never known happiness I get easily deterd from my weightloss as it feels like I will ever overcome it and thus my depression wins. I weigh 167kgs and just want an incredibly easy diet that is the same thing every day that is low calorie. Because of how I am I don't have any concern for my wellbeing as if I wasn't around it wouldn't affect anything. My doctor can't help me with a dietian for over 3 weeks and even then the dietian doesn't really understand the interaction with mental health. I am seeing someone for mental health and it usually goes ok but I lose hope as I've never had anything good or worth caring about before. Has anyone been in a similar place and had to lose about the same amount of weight? Thanks if you can help

Tanye Hypochondria and anxiety help??
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Ive been suffering from severe hypochondria and anxiety. Ive been having trouble coping with it lately and have had multiple anxiety attacks because of it. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how I can seek help/ cope with these? Anything woul... View more

Ive been suffering from severe hypochondria and anxiety. Ive been having trouble coping with it lately and have had multiple anxiety attacks because of it. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how I can seek help/ cope with these? Anything would be appreciated

Missmac123 Depression. I'm stuck and I can't find anyone around that is going through what I have been for the past 5 years.
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I'm 19 years old turning 20 in a few months. Im significantly depressed, medication can only help so much, counselling can only help so much. I have a dental assistant qualification but am now an orthodontic dental assist for about 2 months. Im strug... View more

I'm 19 years old turning 20 in a few months. Im significantly depressed, medication can only help so much, counselling can only help so much. I have a dental assistant qualification but am now an orthodontic dental assist for about 2 months. Im struggling to wake up every morning going to job I hate. The pressure for money I'm feeling is enourmous. I'm struggling with my partner of a year who mental and emotionally abusing me. Yet the love I feel for him makes it impossible for me to leave. My friends either have children, are on drugs or are to busy boyfriends and getting along with their lives. i have a support family but I'm struggling because I'm alone. I am so alone because I don't know anyone like me? That can understand or see the pain I feel from this disease that has taken over my brain and my body. That continuous to get worse year after year. my ideal dream of saving hard, falling Inlove and settling down with someone to have children has vanished because of the disappointed everything has turned out for me. im in such a low point in my life that I don't know what to do. I just want to know if there is any social groups located in tassie? That involve other depression suffers my age?

skw is anyone else the same? (school related)
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Hi, I have currently started year 11. It has only been 4 weeks back at school and I'm already feeling anxious and sad. Everyday I get home from school and feel like crying and I'm always really worried about going to school the next day. Currently as... View more

Hi, I have currently started year 11. It has only been 4 weeks back at school and I'm already feeling anxious and sad. Everyday I get home from school and feel like crying and I'm always really worried about going to school the next day. Currently as i am writing this, it is nearly 3:30am in the morning. I've woken up feeling extremely anxious and sick. Because I'm in yr 11, i can't afford to miss any lessons and feel extremely pressured to do well ,so i can get into uni. I'm currently doing 3 TQ3 subjects and find I'm not coping. I don't know what to do because im really not enjoying going to class and feel dumb in every lesson i have. If you have any advice, please help. I am also quite shy and don't have very good social skills either. I always fear failing and being judged. Thanks for taking the time to read.

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