Jealousy

[SushiCat]

Hi everyone (this is my first post so please tell me if I stuff things up),

My school is putting on a musical, and both me and my friend really want to be in backstage crew. However my friend (who I'll call J) got into backstage crew and I didn't. J is so proud of herself and I know I should be really happy for her, but I just can't be, I'm too jealous.

I know this is a slightly dumb thing to be sad about, but it is on top of another problem and I am not feeling great about either.

I would appreciate it if anyone could reply and possibly help? Thanks loads for reading this.

From SushiCat.

[MsPurple]

HI SushiCat and welcome to the forums. You have successfully started your first post. Congratulations. Many people struggle with their first post so I commend you for joining us on the forums 🙂

I'm sorry that J and not yourself got into the back stage crew. It is normal to have some form of jealousy for someone else. However we need to keep our sense of jealousy under check because you don't want it to take over and make you say things you'll regret. I am glad you are trying to be happy for your friend. I am sure your friend understands if you are a little jealous as it is normal for someone to feel it in this instance. I don't think this is a dumb thing to be sad about. It is a normal feeling to have. Everyone wants to be picked and it is normal to feel this way when someone gets picked and you don't. However it is good that you are acknowledging your feelings. Acknowleging it means you can move past it. Think ' yes I am a little jealous, however I need to be happy for my friend as I know I'd expect the same thing if I were in her shoes'.

Sorry I'm not too sure how helpful I was. But I just want you to know that it is normal to have a feeling of jealousy, however you don't want it to linger and affect your friendships. You need to be happy for them but no envious

MP