im scared of this new lifestyle

[Blueblubber35]

Recently, i have started being in a relationship with a boy. We were friends at first, then we started developing feelings for each other. Eventually, we started going out.

This is my first boyfriend, and ever since then, we have been hitting it off well, but lately i have been really worried and scared of this new life.

i have always been afraid of a breakup or hating each other in the end. i know this is a bad thing, but i cant help it. i havent told anyone, nor do i want to. im sure its because i have been single for so long that being in a relationship is new to me, so it might just be me being unfamiliar with this, therefore making me afraid. i am inexperienced and would appreciate some advice or anything to help me get some sense.

[Fairywings]

Hi there sweety glad you have joined us. Firstly yes ur right new relationships r a little scary at the start coz u have so many emotions that u r feeling. Honestly I would just talk to him about it its important to be honest and open with eachother the fact that u guys started out as friends is such a beautiful thing xx I know you said that u don't want to tell anybody that's ok u can always write it down keep a diary its a very helpful tool xx given u guys have been friends for some time i really think he would understand if you expressed ur feelings keep writing to us we r all here for you xx Venessa

[james1]

hi blueblubber!

That's wonderful that you've found a boyfriend and the first is always scary! In fact, as venessa said, every new relationship is scary because it -is- new.

I'd second venessa's advice in just talking to him and being honest, and just keeping a diary if it helps too.

The only thing I'd add is there's no right or wrong way to do this. Some people take it fast, others take it slow. Some people worry and others don't. The only rules I believe in are trust yourself and trust him. And if you ever feel like that trust is fading, talk about it earlier rather than later.

It sounds like you guys are really great friends and, to be honest, i've always thought of romantic relationships as just friendships with a little bit of extra spark!

This is an exciting time for you and him. We never know what the future holds, so let yourselves enjoy each others' company. We're here to listen and help if you ever have any questions.

James