I'm in love with this girl at highschool but she's way out of my league and every day it just prays on my insecurities I need help because its hurting

WilliamL
Community Member
I'm in love with this girl at highschool but she's way out of my league and every day it just prays on my insecurities I need help because its hurting. I'm good looking, I'm smart but nerdy, I love sports and I am good at sports. In the end I am in an accelerated class she is in what we call mainstream classes and that already makes me different and her better. She's very popular in mainstream and the whole school. I am only popular through the advanced class people. There's nothing special about me, but I am in love. I have never felt this way before but I feel hopeless. We talk a lot and see a fair bit of each other. But she's popular so she talks about the good looking boys and all that and it jut hurts. She doesn't know I like her and I just need help.
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geoff
Champion Alumni
hi William, how this brings back memories from many years ago for me, it's frustrating because you can't go that extra step and ask her out, and you only believe that she's 'out of your league', because she talks about all the other good looking boys, trust me it always gives the indication that she may seem as though she wants to go out with them, but not necessarily so.
It could be a way to make you feel jealous, and it appears to be working, but it certainly doesn't mean she wouldn't go out with you.
If she didn't like you then she wouldn't want to talk with you, however there could be something that draws her attention towards you, and she does this by communicating with you, so you're good at sports and wonder whether she maybe watching you.
Just ask her whether she had seen the game you were playing in, and if so that's great, but if she didn't doesn't matter, she may have been occupied elsewhere, but you're in love with her then bump your hand next to hers, she may clasp it and start holding hands, if not then don't stop.
Pat her on her back when she has done something she is excited about, I know in hindsight, I was silly when an opportunity could have happened when I was at college.
You go home so you think of her, you're in class and think of her, doesn't that mean 'love is in the air', tap her hand and let us know how you get on. Geoff.

Anton_
Beyond Blue Staff

Hi William,

Thank you for sharing your story with us. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed with the situation you are facing. At this age it is very natural to have these kind of emotions, it is part of the process of growing up and experiencing life. We've all gone through them.

I noticed that you mentioned that you are not special, when at the start of your story you mentioned that you are good looking and smart. That makes you really special you know and it can be a good start to your approach towards the girl that you like. How will you use your intelligence to approach the girl William? This is a question to reflect on and put in practice rather than assuming what could happen.

You also mentioned that you talk a lot with each other. Grab the opportunity to learn more things about her, her interests, her values. You don't have to have the same interests or become someone you are not. You are beautiful as you are and they will love you for this uniqueness.

I hope I helped a bit. Let me know how you go with your approach. We can discuss it further if you like.

Have a great day

Anton