I have lost the only person i trust.

Zos · ‎25-10-2017

I have just made the decision to stop contact with one of my closest friends (he was more like a brother) because of a legal investigation and i wanted to protect him from harm. But now that i have stopped contact i feel alone and that i cant trust anyone. Do I try and replace him? do i let myself grieve? or should i just wait what could be up to 2 or more years to be able to talk to him again?

monkey_magic · ‎25-10-2017

Hi Zo,

If I were in your shoes I'd make other friends, which won't replace him but will ease the loss that you feel. If it's in your heart to grieve than go ahead but you will see each other again so hang onto that.

Zos · ‎26-10-2017

Hi Monkey_magic

thank you for your advice I just guess i'm scared to make new friends. I don't know if i can trust anyone or how to allow myself to trust anyone due to traumatic experiences.

monkey_magic · ‎26-10-2017

Hey Zo's,

I've had traumatic experiences myself and I understand the anxiety that comes with it but you are definitely not an island and people need people. You may not want to make friends straight away and it can be scary but there are some decent, caring,good ppl around and I'd stick to them. You could always start talking to people on line to build up your confidence and if u feel comfortable share your experiences. There are ppl here that will write to you. I'm not trying to push u in anyway just whatever you feel comfortable with.

Im sure you're a great person with a good heart and others would be lucky to have a friend like you.