I feel a bit sad

[cabbagebus]

Hi everyone

Ive been wondering for a while if I should post something but I didn't really know what to say

I guess I've been feeling sad for a while. Recently, I just don't know. I don't know what to do.

I'm in my first year of uni and I moved to a different state. I think I'm going to move back home at the end of the year for a few reasons but mainly because I miss my parents.

I have social anxiety I guess. I got help last year and things are improving, but I feel like because I had it for so long without realising, it affected me a lot.

I don't have friends here or back home. My only friend was my twin sister but we got into an argument and haven't talked for a more than a month. We often argue and that's why I think it's partly good we aren't talking, but I also don't really have anyone else.

I call my parents and usually talking to them makes me feel better but it's hard because they're so far away.

I have a roommate but it's hard for me to talk to her and I'm not sure I would feel comfortable talking to her about personal stuff anyway.

I can't tell if I'm actually having trouble sleeping or if it's my own fault. I wake up feeling okay in terms of mood (just tired) and I don't have problems with motivation much except uni makes me tired a lot.

I don't think I feel lonely, but I'm not sure. I don't want to talk to anyone though. I don't really want to try to make friends right now because I don't feel like I'm in the right headspace.

Online uni is hard, but I'm kind of relieved I don't have to go out and interact with people in person.

I’ve kind of had a sad week because of some things that happened, but it’s too hard to write about.

I feel like I should talk to a psychologist or something. The one I went to before is in my home state. When I left she said we could do an online session if I needed it, but I can't really bring myself to ask now. It just seems like too much. I don't know.

I feel like I'm so horrible at communicating. I'm sorry. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

[Petal22]

Hi cabbagebus,

Sorry you are feeling this way…. It’s hard when we feel sad……..

Thanks for reaching out to us here…

I understand being away from your parents living in a different state would be hard for you I’m sure you miss them a lot…

I understand online uni would be hard…

Maybe in your own time you can make some new friends, it would help to have that company…. Just being around people helps…

You could make an appointment with your gp and let them know how you are feeling…… you could do a mental health plan together this will enable you to see a psychologist..

We are all here as a community to support you in any way….. please chat to us about anything any time…

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hi there.

Sorry you’re feeling sad. It sounds like you have a lot on your shoulders and I agree it would be good to talk to someone. Your situation sounds similar to my son’s when he went off to uni. He had trouble connecting with people too and was lonely, which made uni a bit too much for him. I really wish he’d reached out at the time. And I hope you find it in you to do so too. Can you think about what might make that easier for you?

Do you think you’d be comfortable reaching out to a uni counsellor? Or texting or phoning one of the helplines like BeyondBlue or Kids Helpline? Maybe an opportunity to talk through some of those things that have been hard this week might lighten your mental load?

Of course, if you’re not up to it right now, you’re welcome to chat more here. As Petal said, we’re a friendly bunch 🙂 Katy

[est72]

Hello,

I just wanted to say that I'm here for you, and even though it may seem very demanding and tiring to have to go out and make friends, once you find the right ones you'll feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. Obviously, friends can't fix everything but for the most part, it's human nature to want and need to socialize. If making friends at this moment feels too difficult, online friends can easily suffice without the pressure to constantly keep in contact with all of them or see them in person. My advice would be to try not to feel nervous about asking for that online session with the psychologist, even if it's been a while since they've offered, I think it would help a lot with how you're feeling and I promise it's not too much, that's what they're there for.

Hang in there, I hope everything gets better ❤️

[cabbagebus]

Hi everyone,

Thank you so much to the people who responded to me... you guys genuinely made me feel better... even just the feeling of not being alone and saying something and having people respond in a kind way. It means a lot to me I guess... and it makes a difference.

I'm posting because I wanted to say that I made a friend. I've talked to her almost every day for the past three weeks. I haven't had a close friend in three years I guess because I tried to isolate myself from people because I was... scared of rejection and all... and general feelings of disconnection.. too tired to try. I get worried that she won't want to talk to me anymore for some reason, but... yeah.

Maybe good things do happen sometimes.

p.s. if anyone who doesn't have friends happens to read this... I'm rooting for you... I promise it won't be awful forever.

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Awww what a lovely post ♥️

Happy to hear that you’ve found some great company and are in a better mental space as a result. Maybe you can build on that foundation and meet a few more people. Either way, glad you’re going well, and do remember you’re always welcome to check back in here any time you want.

Katy 🙂