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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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I'll make it a brief as possible as I'm not really one who tends to open up but it's killing me inside When I was 18 though to 20 I lost my best friend and other friends from suicide or an accident, that messed me up for years now, I felt like I was getting better but I pushed alot of people away because of it, now just recently I spent 7 and a half months bed ridden, unable to look after myself and do anything for myself for the longest time which has made me fall into a deeper hole I thought couldn't get deeper, I was alone and in pain constantly, I pushed my friends and family away cause no one showed they actually cared towards me. Now that I've had surgery and in the process still recovering my loss of strength. I've come to the point that I don't know why I keep trying to recover, having no friends anyone and no one around really eats at me, but I really am trying my best to make myself better but it's so hard when you always feel lonely. If there is any advice anyone can offer I'm willing to try, I do wanna improve myself but I just keep feeling worst and worst the more I try it alone

Opening up

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My whole life I have suffered with depression and anxiety. I have gotten to the point I need to do something as it’s affecting me so much now and losing me opportunities I want. The one thing is I find it impossible to talk to people, I won’t ever fully open up and talking to a professional I just completely close up on them, no matter how much I want to open up. please help any ideas on how to get through this? Bit of background I am looking after my sick mum and being a single mum and also working and studying. My mum has never been supportive and very self absorbed my whole life only due to dealing with her own issues. I’ve been through a dv situation with my daughters father and constantly feel anxious.

I've got no one to turn to, so I just wanna let my thoughts out here.

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I'm new here and I'm gonna make this quick because I can't be bothered to type a lot. I'm 15 and I have a few friends but none of them like to talk about serious stuff. My parents a generally ignorant and I can be in literal tears and say I'm just tired and they believe me. My parents do not believe in mental illnesses and when my sister asked to see a therapist my mum told her there is nothing wrong with her. I'm not close with my sister, by the way, so talking to her isn't really an option. I've been feeling really down lately. I don't remember when this started, but I have no energy and I keep crying. I don't have the energy to talk much and I cried twice in class today. I feel really alone and I can't stop thinking about it. I can't concentrate and I don't really care about much now. I'm writing this instead of doing an assignment that's due in half an hour, actually. I just don't know what happened. I used to feel fine despite the lack of attention I get from my parents. Now I just can't stop crying and I don't want to go to school tomorrow at all. My parents don't know about any of this, they think I'm always fine and there's nothing wrong with me. I guess I'll just leave it as that.

'White Picket Fence'

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Hi Everyone, I'm sure alot of you have heard the lay metaphor 'White picket fence life' ... if not, this metaphor usually starts to relates at a certain age (late 20s) where you settle down with a partner, get married, have kids, live in the family home which comes together as the 'white picket fence life' So it's 2020 and times have REALLY changed but there is still alot of stigma and weight behind this term for young people in their late 20s. I have been doing alot of mental training to try and get this toxic thought out of my head as i don't believe it's is one of my own thoughts but merely a pressure of society that we have been born with blue printed into our minds. For those who experience this struggle in society i'd like to hear any thoughts as to your experience with this ... if it's something you think about alot? or if its never crossed your mind. Billiee

Friends

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Hi Dose anyone know of any support groups? Also I'm trying to make friends but have had no luck I been on social apps but most people on there won't talk to you or they are after fun and some are just bullies. I have tried apps like meet me tagged. T... View more

What more can I do?

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Hi, everyone. I'm 16 years old. I've been depressed for a while now. Well I haven't officially been diagnosed because my therapist doesn't like to diagnose. I do take antidepressants though and I have been visiting a therapist and psychiatrist for some time. The medication has helped. I don't feel a benefit in the therapy at the moment though. It's just being told to do the same thing over and over and nothing more. I currently have feelings for someone, I have for 5 months, they don't feel the same way and I have no idea what to do. I feel that I love them so deeply and that they mean everything to me. I don't know how to get over this or make my life worth living. What more can I do? Thanks everyone!

year 12 student struggling with loss of motivation, flunking school

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I don't actually know whether I'm just constantly really depressed or whether I actually have depression but either way I'm struggling to find motivation to do school work and pass my tests. Every time I do badly in a test the stress and anxiety piles up and then in the next one I feel worse about it, and most of the time end up flunking it. I don't know what to do and I'm getting super stressed about my future and having mild breakdowns.

Feeling alone and stupid

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Hi, my name is Olivia and this is the first time i have ever written anything like this before. I haven't really talked to anyone about how im feeling except myself. I usually try to reason with my feelings by talking aloud to no one, but eventually i get all worked up and start crying, making myself sad about nothing. So i figured i should stop doing that and try this. So here it is. I am really sad. I am really sad because i constantly feel alone in this world. i feel really dumb all the time. whenever i meet people i really struggle to engage on an intellectual level with them and that really bothers me! I idealise people who are knowledgeable. I idealise people that know sports, science, maths, literature, history! When people rattle of information too me i find it the coolest thing and i WISH i could do that to but i can't. I am useless when it comes to that. I only know a little or none. And the rare moments i try to sound smart or intellectual i will always be squandered by someone else who knows more. When i study i feel like i could read something 10 times and i still wont be able to recite what i learnt the next day. Maybe the concept will sound familiar but i will have to search it up again so that i can remember. I mainly feel alone, because i feel like everyone in this world thinks differently to me. I feel like i talk to myself way too much because i am the only one who will understand. and i really do believe that. And i have noticed the more i do this, the more i have developed hateful judgement towards people i know, because i convince myself they will never understand, they have perfect lives and i hate that and them for it. However, i am able to put a poker face on, and hide this side to my friends and family. I just feel so stupid all the time. And i hear myself getting angry about. I just want to run away sometimes so that i dont feel like i have put on this fake image that i know stuff and that im interesting when really i know i am not.

The further away from home, the more stressed I get

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I have really been struggling to get out of the house lately, even if it is just to go now to the local supermarket or down to the city. I still can't go. I have a doctor's appointment coming later today and I am really nervous ongoing due to my anxiety. Usually, I could easily just get in the car and walk into shops/doctors but now it is a different story. Why is that?. I would love for somebody to give me an explanation of why, the further away from home, the more stressed I get. One of the reasons might be due to having a panic attack in the shops. Ever since I had a panic attack in the shops and feeling all of the symptoms, it has put me off going out places. If somebody could really help me, that would be great Thanks, Sam

Just a thought I've been having

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Hi all hope you're doing well. I'm sure a lot of you are being affected by Covid in different ways. For me, I've been getting less anxious about actually getting covid which is really good, but I can't help but think about the future when covid ends, and it's a pretty mixed bag to be honest. I thought maybe people would go out more because perhaps we feel as though we took advantage of our freedom (mind you, I live in Melbourne), which I would personally love because I'm naturally pretty sociable around others and would love to think we're heading that way! Unfortunately another part of me also thinks the complete opposite and it really makes me question how life will change for the worse. What if we get so busy with our lives that there is no longer time for friends/family? What if the people in my own life don't want to go out as much because they're too tired from a post-covid world? that weirdly terrifies me because I would hate to end up in a world where we socialise less than before covid was a thing. I know this might be a bit far into the future here but I just feel a bit depressed thinking about that. Socialising keeps me feeling fulfilled and to not feel like I have enough of that fulfilment in life, it just makes this whole thing really sad for me Would love to hear your thoughts on this and I hope everyone's enjoying their fathers day!

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'White Picket Fence' replies: 3

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