I don't really know what to do....

[silentmind]

Hi 

 I've really only felt down and sad and I don't really know for about 3 months. I just sit in my room at night and balls my eyes out.... I almost finished my I.T degree but i don't even know if I'm even doing the right thing. My girlfriend has been away for 8 months doing exchange so that hasn't really help. She comes back next week though. I feel like my life is a complete waste... Like i failed everything i've done up to this point... I'm 23 male living at home but i haven't told my parents about my feels.. I don't want anyone to know, but i want my parents to know i just can't bring myself to telling them... I don't want to disappoint them. I don't want to talk to a doctor either...

I just don't know what to do? I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense, I'm currently balling my eyes out...

[Jacko777]

Hi silentmind,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums, its good that you are talking about this.

I know you don't want to talk to a doctor but would you consider giving the Beyond Blue phone service a try? It's free, 24/7 and a professional can give you some things to feel better straight away and you can start to make some fresh plans for the future. I bet you haven't failed at everything and I bet your parents would want to know how you feel. There might be a simple explanation for how you feel, to know how to treat your condition you first need a professional diagnosis. 

I hope you can start to shift your focus to the things that make you happy and calm, what are they? Some times I need some loud music, a bike ride through the bush or some meditation. It will probably take some small steps, some changes in your thinking, to find some happiness. Hang in there mate, I know you can do things to feel better. Talk any time.

Jack

[Zeal]

Hi silentmind,

I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling so down. It's great that you've almost finished your degree - keep going! Not knowing if it's the right degree or the right choice is pretty common, unfortunately. There are just so many choices these days, and that be really confusing.

Your girlfriend being away for 8 months must have been hard. I miss my boyfriend if I don't see him for half a week! I don't know you, but I am pretty sure you are not failing in life. Being 23 and living at home is quite normal these days. I'm 22 and still live at home, and don't plan to move out anytime soon.

Your parents wouldn't be disappointed if you tell them you've been feeling unhappy. They are much more likely to be concerned, and try to make you feel more secure and happy in some way. Going to your GP would be great, if you could work up to that. Coming here was a great first step. Like Jack said, ringing the beyond blue service is a good option.

Feel free to post again 🙂

Best wishes,

SM