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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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intervine Not sure if depression or anxiety
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Hi all, This is the first time I've posted online about this... so please bear with me. For a few months now I've been feeling... different. I have definitely lost motivation in almost all aspects of life: I used to be able to study very efficiently ... View more

Hi all, This is the first time I've posted online about this... so please bear with me. For a few months now I've been feeling... different. I have definitely lost motivation in almost all aspects of life: I used to be able to study very efficiently but ever since this started I've never been able to concentrate for more than 20 minutes. I used to absolutely LOVE gaming, but now when I play games I don't get as much of a thrill. Also I used to be a huge fitness junkie, exercising and playing sports at least 5-6 times a week. But now, I don't even have the motivation to do as much exercise. I feel tired all the time and before this week (which is why I'm posting now), I would sleep all the time. However this week, something else changed. Now I can't sleep. I still feel tired and I really want to rest, but my brain just won't turn off. Furthermore, I lost motivation to go out an socialize as well, and when I do I feel nervous and utterly self-conscious, and I always end up feeling even more exhausted after a day of socializing. I still have some close friends thankfully, and being with them does not sap me of my energy. I never used to be this introverted. I used to be the life of the group and I'd always be keen for going out. But now I just feel anxious and self-conscious when I'm in big groups. And it's gotten so bad to the point where I can't even go out for a run because I feel too self-conscious. So basically, is this depression or anxiety? I kind of want to figure this out before I start seeking professional help... Sorry for the lengthy post. Thanks in advance for anyone's time

Jodie_S Just seeking some advice
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Hello, I'm a 20 year old female, i started speaking to a guy in 2013 and we moved pretty fast, after a month I was living with him and his family working in s family business. It was great. We had our ups and downs but overall it was great, until I f... View more

Hello, I'm a 20 year old female, i started speaking to a guy in 2013 and we moved pretty fast, after a month I was living with him and his family working in s family business. It was great. We had our ups and downs but overall it was great, until I found pictures on his phone of other girls and messages from other girls, he was also on a dating sight... He come clean, apologised and swore it would never happen again. I dealt with it, he then started having mild anger issues getting frustrated at work and shouting at me, manipulation was huge but again I just took it with a pinch of salt. I came back in 2014 to visit my family and much to my disgust I cheated on him... When he questioned me I lied because I was so ashamed. Just like I did though he dealt with it and we got past it. His anger problems got worse and then I found he was speaking to other girls again but I kept it to myself and didn't tell him I knew, until 4 months ago when I confronted him and he denied it all, although I knew it was true as I had seen it all with my own eyes.. He got severely angry and pushed me,I left that night and I hadn't spoke to him in around 3 months. We then started talking again 1 month ago and he swears he has changed etc he has taken anger management classes. Everything was going great until today when I didn't reply to him in over an hour he automatically accused me of cheating, lying to him and everything again.. I don't know what to do because I truly do love him but I feel as if I know deep down I shouldn't have to deal with his split personality. I physically feel as if I need him, I want him but I don't know how long I can take these accusations for

SadnLonelyeh What's wrong with me
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I'll give a brief summary of my situation. I'm 15, I have been abused and abondoned all my life from early childhood. currently I live with my mum and her boyfriend who is very not nice to me but she says it's my fault and I provoked it no matter wha... View more

I'll give a brief summary of my situation. I'm 15, I have been abused and abondoned all my life from early childhood. currently I live with my mum and her boyfriend who is very not nice to me but she says it's my fault and I provoked it no matter what I say I WILL cop it from him, I am really depressed, anxious and angry on the inside, I can go from being distant and nothing can make me upset, happy or anything its just nothing basically. Too being very sensitive and crying which I actually like because I feel somewhat human but anyway I go to an alternative school which I don't like much and I would prefer to be alone. I feel very stuck, Their is no such thing as a good day for me anymore, Happiness doesn't exist anymore, I'm scared to do simple things like going outside, going to the shops, Socializing etc. I go to therapy which I have been for a couple of years but I don't even talk about things there and I often fake my mood like I do a lot of the time, I feel very guilty and I just don't see an end to this, I won't say anymore but I want some advice, I go to therapy because I can talk for a bit but If I don't even say anything worth talking about It seems pointless but letting someone know the things I really think and feel and things Ive seen is just unimaginable and I'm scared because when I was in grade 8 my therapist took what I said completely out of context and thought I was in danger which was stressful to me because I wasn't, I have been admitted before but I don't want to be admitted again it wasnt fun to put it nicely. Anyway this is getting too long so I just want to know what I should do or some advice. beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Darcis_Prime My past still haunts me.
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Hey guys, im Darcee. This is my first post on this thing so here goes:I was brought up on pain. Constantly beaten and abused. I was made the 'slave of the house' after my father had married my stepmom. She is a cruel, mind-bending woman who controls ... View more

Hey guys, im Darcee. This is my first post on this thing so here goes:I was brought up on pain. Constantly beaten and abused. I was made the 'slave of the house' after my father had married my stepmom. She is a cruel, mind-bending woman who controls people to her will. She's like Morgana. Cruel and wicked. My father wasnt always so abusive. He used to be kind, smart and loving. But when she came it all went to hell. I would be threatened in my own home, told that i was nothing but a filthy rat... at least that is what it felt like. My hatred for them grew bigger by the day and soon, after moving i had had enough. Instead of trying to 'impress them' i shamed them. Gave them a taste of their own medicine. I devoted to listening to demons instead of these 'angesls' they so often sopke of. They tried to force me to be christian, i became the opposite. A girl who hates the things they did and killed her own family in her dreans. Everyday i feared getting out of bed, not even game enough to plant my feet on the carpet. But now that i have gotten away from them i feel safer. But my past still comes for me. I may be 15 but i still need a teddy bear to get to sleep in fear of waking up in that ghastly place. I needed out of there before i exploded. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

BlueMoon123 How to get my partner on my side
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I'm 23, female, suffering depression, I have previously been through lows when I was younger but this is the first time I have properly approached it and perhaps identified it properly. Just finished 3 months of weekly therapy which was an amazing ex... View more

I'm 23, female, suffering depression, I have previously been through lows when I was younger but this is the first time I have properly approached it and perhaps identified it properly. Just finished 3 months of weekly therapy which was an amazing experience. I learnt a huge amount about myself, likes, dislikes, wants & needs, strategies to control myself and to lift myself out of the black hole. i feel well equipped to be taking steps forward but my partner is not on board. since the start of my low moods he has been getting frustrated. He tells me to get over it, stop moping, stop focusing on it, go for a run. He was not supportive at all through my sessions - I was using up time I could spend with him, I was saying all nasty things about him etc he is quite needy, always needing reassurance, knows that he has done wrong to me in the past and gets super anxious about it. i feel like through all of this I have come out liking myself more and him less. I want to support him with his anxiety but am getting nil support from him in return. he says he has had a friend and mum go through depression and that I am not like that. No I haven't tried to commit suicide or leant on drugs/alcohol but that doesn't mean that I don't need his help. I am rambling a bit, I just feel lost at how to get him on board to be there for me and to not be so frustrated all the time i don't want to feel like this I wish he could see that does anyone have a similar situation or any ideas to get him to understand?

DannyB1997 Relationship Help
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I started dating a girl back in April. I used to go to school with her and I moved which she only just moved to the school I now am at. So we knew each other but not too well. Since moving back to school together we started becoming really good frien... View more

I started dating a girl back in April. I used to go to school with her and I moved which she only just moved to the school I now am at. So we knew each other but not too well. Since moving back to school together we started becoming really good friends. We spoke and hung around each day. She had a boyfriend at this stage, yet later breaking up last December. We started dating in April. I thought I knew her. A really friendly nice and innocent young girl. Yet soon finding out that she used to smoke, She used to drink. It took me a long time to forgive her but I did. Then being told that she has had sex back in year 8. This came as a huge surprise to me. Only yesterday being told that not only has she had sex, however she has done really inappropriate things with other boys. This has hurt me so much. First thinking she was innocent yet now I don't know. I have never done any of this. Since being told I have been really sad, feeling sick and not been able to sleep. I have cried and I have no idea at all with what to do. Please help

Rubzey Hate myself
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Not really sure where to start... I suffer from anxiety and tomorrow is the first day back at uni. Part of me is excited but the anxiety side knows tomorrow when I get up there's going to be aong list of battles to fight before I even get to class. I... View more

Not really sure where to start... I suffer from anxiety and tomorrow is the first day back at uni. Part of me is excited but the anxiety side knows tomorrow when I get up there's going to be aong list of battles to fight before I even get to class. I hate my body. Deciding what to wear has already got me panicked. having to walk by myself to the bus and then face all the people looking at me on my way to uni means by the time I get to uni a good half hour is going to be spent calming myself down in the toilets. I'll go into class sweaty palmed but no one will know I'm a nervous wreck. No one will know the up hill battle I've dragged myself through just to get to class. I cover my anxiety well and I won't let it stop me because I fear falling apart. But I wish I could get up and not have a thousand worries. If only each day was as simple as getting up and going.. Feeling like I need a hand to hold.

Dandy101 I feel nothing
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Im 15 years old and I do suffer from anxiety since I was 11, I have been through some bad feelings. I self-harmed last year, I stoped doing it. I did go to a therapy to help with my amxiety cause I was having pannic attacks 1-3 times a day and I star... View more

Im 15 years old and I do suffer from anxiety since I was 11, I have been through some bad feelings. I self-harmed last year, I stoped doing it. I did go to a therapy to help with my amxiety cause I was having pannic attacks 1-3 times a day and I started to hate myslef. I then got better and I was actually happy with myself for a bit. then I started to hate myslef, I started to think im not good enough. Now I dont even feel happy, or sad. I feel nothing, just a plain feeling. Is that a sign of depression? Im really confused with my emotions and Im scared to talk to someone about them because they think im over reacting. I just want to be happy again beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

cheeseaus I want to feel happy again
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I'm 23 years old and believe am having some issues with myself. In the past I've had issues with anxiety and panic attacks but have learned to deal with these. I have not had a panic attack for a couple of years and my anxiety is minimal most of the ... View more

I'm 23 years old and believe am having some issues with myself. In the past I've had issues with anxiety and panic attacks but have learned to deal with these. I have not had a panic attack for a couple of years and my anxiety is minimal most of the time. Currently I just feel unhappy, like there is no joy in life. I work full time, have a great girlfriend, plenty of friends and a loving family but i'm just unhappy. Nothing excites me, nothing brings me joy, the things I used to get enjoyment out of just bore me, I have no motivation to do anything better with myself, I lack concentration, lately i've been getting really irritated at things that shouldn't irritate me. It's starting to affect my relationship. Sometimes I feel like I don't love my girlfriend but then I question whether this is true or if it's me just being unhappy with myself and everything else. I've contemplated breaking up with her but I can't because I know i'll regret it and just be lonely. I never wanted meds to help with my anxiety. I don't want to rely on medication to make me normal but lately i'm starting to think maybe I should see a doctor and see if I need to start taking something. I want to get the joy back in my life and be happy. I'm sick of having no emotion.

TWLOHA_4_LIFE confusing emotions
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Hey guys So the past few months I've been on a. Rollercoaster ride with my emotions and to be honest sometimes I have no idea why Its hard because some days its just I wake up and feel like its not worth getting up, some nights I cry myself to sleep ... View more

Hey guys So the past few months I've been on a. Rollercoaster ride with my emotions and to be honest sometimes I have no idea why Its hard because some days its just I wake up and feel like its not worth getting up, some nights I cry myself to sleep and some days I just want them to and because I've had enough. I guess some of it stems from seeing families that are happy and see each other a lot where as I see mine once every 6 months if I am lucky I also have struggled to find work since moving to a new place and many people say I'm just lazy or unwilling to work when to be honest I'd love to have a job just 90% of the places are only after juniors because they are cheaper to hire as I turn 21 this year. I guess it all just builds up and hits at times. Sometimes I'm fine other days I don't wanna speak to anyone let alone do anything at all. I talk to my partner about it but he finds some parts hard to understand like the missing my family as he says (it's not like its been years and you speak on the phone) I guess its easy for him to see it that way as he has all of his family around him. Thanks for reading and if anyone has anyways to help I guess cope that would be great