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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Bec990 I'm lost and I don't know what to do
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First of all I am not diagnosed with depression or anxiety but I fear I am heading in that direction. My family life is falling to pieces and I feel as if I no longer belong in my friend group. First of all my parents are not happily married. I'm not... View more

First of all I am not diagnosed with depression or anxiety but I fear I am heading in that direction. My family life is falling to pieces and I feel as if I no longer belong in my friend group. First of all my parents are not happily married. I'm not sure if they were ever in love. I've heard them argue and shout, constantly undermining each others actions. I know this isn't just them hitting a rough patch as my mother has told me about their issues over the last 10 years. They went to couple therapy for a few months about five years ago and kept it a secret, surely that means something. I have heard them argue about the most horrid things while I was in the other room. I walk out crying and hide in my cupboard. I am child number three of four. We have quite a large family and I think that is all that has kept my parents together over the last decade. Both my sisters have been to see the school councillor about anxiety and that is one of the main reasons I don't want to speak to the councillor because then they will think my family is broken. Which it is. Today my mother looked at her wedding photos which are hung up above the television and said "I need to take those down, they are really annoying". Your wedding day should not be a day you want to forget! I fear that after my sisters and I leave home my parents will either split up and be forever lonely or simply bicker every waking minute. They don't even sleep in the same room for heavens sake! Now I can't explain all this to one of my friends simply because I feel as if I don't have any. My 'true' friends have moved schools so my friendship group no longer feels right. It feels as if I don't belong there anymore. I've tried to branch out to other friendship groups but wherever I go I feel as if I don't fit in. The one time I did try to talk to a 'friend' about my family issues they avoided me for weeks and I'm pretty sure they still think I'm crazy.I no longer know what to do. Sometimes I find my self going for a walk and simply bursting out into tears because it all gets too much. I want to call someone or talk to someone about it but I'm worried I'll push away another friend. And friends are kind of a rare thing in my life at the moment. Does anyone have any advice? I feel lost, all I want to be is happy.

salem19 Anxiety making me very emotional & insecure
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As a 17 year old, I have had symptoms of anxiety since my pre-teens, but was only diagnosed by a psychologist at 15 after months of anxiety ending with my first panic attack. For the past two years, I have come to terms with what are "everyday" emoti... View more

As a 17 year old, I have had symptoms of anxiety since my pre-teens, but was only diagnosed by a psychologist at 15 after months of anxiety ending with my first panic attack. For the past two years, I have come to terms with what are "everyday" emotional/physical ups and downs and what are anxious symptoms, with panic attacks happening once every couple months. In the past 6 months, however, I have recognized that my anxiety is worsening both in frequency and intensity. Firstly, my panic attacks began to occur more often what with the demand of school and and unstable relationship with my mother. I now have a panic attack every 1-2 weeks, ranging from a crescendo of sickness and/or hyperventilation, to uncontrollable emotions and shakiness/inability to sit still. In the past month, I have also recognized my emotional state becoming almost unbearable. I am constantly clingy to my boyfriend and have the inability to be alone - one night alone often results in the constant need to cry, the fear of being left out and ultimately ending in a fair few tears shed. My need to cry and the resulting exhaustion from focusing on not crying goes hand in hand with feeling sick and the fear that I am simply being annoying. I have such a strong negative response whenever my boyfriend does things without me - I try my very best not to let him know, however I get angry, irritable and very, very sad due to the fear of missing out. I recently went to a music festival where I had volunteering shifts each day. My friends (and boyfriend) had paid for their tickets, which meant I had unbearable feelings of being left out, to the point where I had a panic attack after being released for the day from my volunteering shift. It's been a couple of days since this festival, and yet my feelings still have not gone - I shouldn't be stirring over such negative emotion and yet I find myself thinking that there was no point in being there; no reason as to why anyone would want me there. I was just looking for ways to lift such negative responses to being alone, or having friends/partner doing things without me. An insight into why I may be feeling such things would also be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Bodey294 does anxiety need to be rationalised?
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Hi there, my feelings of anxiety are becoming more visible to me. there are circumstances where i feel anxious for no reason at all (or maybe i haven't delved into enough). eg before i go to the bathroom i have to cautiously listen up against my door... View more

Hi there, my feelings of anxiety are becoming more visible to me. there are circumstances where i feel anxious for no reason at all (or maybe i haven't delved into enough). eg before i go to the bathroom i have to cautiously listen up against my door for a few minutes to know if anyone is outside in the corridor, if someone is out there i hold it even if I'm busting, until i hear complete silence and feel confident enough to go. eg I sometimes skip meals because (i cant cook) Im too afraid i might be intercepted on the way by people at my university (i live on campus). i don't know how to control my anxiety and don't know why I'm feeling this way. so i wonder, does there need to be an external (social, environmental, family, peers, work life) reason for someone to have anxiety or can it be something else? thank you

silentmind I don't really know what to do....
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Hi I've really only felt down and sad and I don't really know for about 3 months. I just sit in my room at night and balls my eyes out.... I almost finished my I.T degree but i don't even know if I'm even doing the right thing. My girlfriend has been... View more

Hi I've really only felt down and sad and I don't really know for about 3 months. I just sit in my room at night and balls my eyes out.... I almost finished my I.T degree but i don't even know if I'm even doing the right thing. My girlfriend has been away for 8 months doing exchange so that hasn't really help. She comes back next week though. I feel like my life is a complete waste... Like i failed everything i've done up to this point... I'm 23 male living at home but i haven't told my parents about my feels.. I don't want anyone to know, but i want my parents to know i just can't bring myself to telling them... I don't want to disappoint them. I don't want to talk to a doctor either... I just don't know what to do? I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense, I'm currently balling my eyes out...

Kiseki ">I think I just had a panic/anxiety attack...
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I've been sobbing for the past ten minutes, but it quickly became me just hyperventilating and breathing rapidly. That lasted for at least five minutes, and afterwards, I just kind of lied on my bed, feeling absolutely worthless and depressed from it... View more

I've been sobbing for the past ten minutes, but it quickly became me just hyperventilating and breathing rapidly. That lasted for at least five minutes, and afterwards, I just kind of lied on my bed, feeling absolutely worthless and depressed from it. I've cried before, but never that intensely over such a short time. The thing is, I feel fine now, apart from the emotional aftermath.This happened because my mother disagreed with me over what bins to put on the street for collection tomorrow morning. I knew that the yellow bin didn't need to be taken out for another week, and that only the red bin needed to be emptied. Did she trust me? No. She just had to check for herself, to ensure that I was telling the truth. I have no reason to lie to her, especially about something so petty. When I returned inside, I decided to talk to my mum about this, since she'd encouraged both of us to be open about issues, so I was. I told her that it seemed that she had difficulty trusting other people, to which she agreed.Then, I tried to ask her why she didn't trust me, and she told me that she had to see for herself. I told her that it really hurt me to know that I wasn't trusted by her, and she said that she 'understood'. However, I tried to talk to her about it some more, and she brought up the fact that she's nearly 50, she is an adult, and, therefore, she knows more than I ever will. When I tried to explain that, yes, she might be an adult, no, that didn't mean that she held all the answers. I then tried to say that I'll be a legal adult in 8 months, but she said that it didn't count. I was going to ask her when she became an adult, but she cut me off, saying that I would never know anything. Then, she began crying, saying that she does so much for this family, and that she's never appreciated. At that point, I just gave up and headed to my room, where I pretty much broke down for a total of 15 minutes. Even now, I feel bad, and I have school tomorrow. My mum's more than likely going to twist the story so that it fits her narrative better and portrays me as the villain.I can talk to my dad, but, ever since he and mum fought 4 months ago, things haven't been the same between them, and he prefers to stay out of these situations.I guess I'm asking for help with identifying the emotional mess I went through, and also what I should do about this entire situation. I don't know right now. I feel so pathetic.

Mon_002 Overload. I don't know what to do.
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This is my first time writing on a forum and I don't really know what to say. What I am about to write are things I haven't spoken about to anyone because I don't know how to and just don't feel comfortable doing so. I am a very quiet and sensitive p... View more

This is my first time writing on a forum and I don't really know what to say. What I am about to write are things I haven't spoken about to anyone because I don't know how to and just don't feel comfortable doing so. I am a very quiet and sensitive person who bottles up their emotions. I don't know how to let them out to talk to people and this make me feel helpless. I feel like there are so many things happening to me right now I don't know where to start or what to say. I am currently studying and have exams starting next week. At the moment I am meant to be studying but I can't concentrate at all and keep procrastinating. This has been happening to me for a long time and I can't get myself motivated to study even though it is the opportunity for me to achieve my dream job. I have negative thoughts about my grades and don't have any hope for myself passing; the trigger was when I received a mark below 50% for an assignment, which I still haven’t told my parents about. I try to avoid my work and therefore contact friends to keep my mind off everything that is bothering me. I feel like my brain is in overdrive as I am constantly over thinking ever situation. It is hard for me to clear my mind and the only way I could do that was if I went to the beach, the gym, rode my bike or went for walks, but now all of that seems too hard for me to do. I am constantly tired and feel drained. I can't sleep and some nights I stay up for hours or I wake up constantly during the night. I have also woken up in regards to uni work being due and thinking that I have missed the due date for assessments. I was seeing someone for a month but then things were agreed to be left and we would continue being friends. He is now overseas but I haven't heard from him since he left and neither have his friends. He was the only person I could talk to... I could tell him anything, like how I felt and things that were bothering me and were on my mind.. I can’t tell others these things because I don’t feel like I can and since he’s been away, I feel like this is when I've needed him the most. I don’t know what to do, I'm very worried and stressed about everything... even little things bother me. I just need some help and guidance into what I can do. My main priority is studying, sitting and passing my exams to then enjoy a good break.

WishingLove Please Help Me
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Hi, so I have an amazing long distance boyfriend that I have met 2 times already, and we have been together for more than a year. The problem is that I have a problem with lying.. And I have talked to someone and tried to stop (I have gotten better),... View more

Hi, so I have an amazing long distance boyfriend that I have met 2 times already, and we have been together for more than a year. The problem is that I have a problem with lying.. And I have talked to someone and tried to stop (I have gotten better), but every once in a while something comes out without me thinking, and then my boyfriend freaks out and doesn't trust me, because of all the lies I have told him. None of them have been about big things, just small white lies, but in the past recent months, he has started to become depressed because of them. At times he has told me that I don't appreciate/love him enough (I thought I do/say many loving things to him and about what he does for me, I tell him sweet things every day and whenever he does something romantic is makes me so happy) or I can't stop lying. He tells me "if you really loved me you would stop lying and treat me better", and I am trying to be better because I truly love him with all of my heart, but it is hard. Because of all of these things he has become depressed and it sucks because we are long distance and I am not there to help him through it. The most recent thing that pushed him past the edge was because I wouldn't facetime him in the car with a girl on my dance team and her parents in the car with me (they drove me home after a football game we performed at). It made me uncomfortable to call him, when I'm not that good friends with the girl, plus her parents were there. Because I wouldn't call him, he thinks that I'm embarrassed of him, which is not the case at all, but I believe that is the depression talking. Anyways, do any of you guys have any tips for me on how I can help my boyfriend deal with the depression, being so far away? I want him to know that I am there for him, but he is pushing me away and I don't want that to happen, especially since we are long distance and I am not able to watch him and make sure he is okay. By the way, I am 15 and he is 16, he is too young to be going through this and I really want to be able to help him, because he won't tell his mom, because he knows if he tells her it is because of me, she will make him break up with me. He doesn't want that to happen because he loves me, but is always getting hurt by the things I do. Is there any tips on how I can act better to be able to show him my love?

Jimmy19 Im going up and down
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My moods are just jumping around realky bad and its really stressing me out. ​I recently posted a vent on this Forum and a few days after replied that I now understand what i need to do and all that. But since then I have hit a real slump. One of the... View more

My moods are just jumping around realky bad and its really stressing me out. ​I recently posted a vent on this Forum and a few days after replied that I now understand what i need to do and all that. But since then I have hit a real slump. One of the problems I am having is that when I am with my friends its fine. But whenever the event comes to a close I just feel like dirt. For example today I went to the beach with friends and about 20 mins before we were leaving i just switched from laughing and kicking a ball to wanting to yell at the top of my lungs. I dont know if this is pathetic or obsession or whatever. But one of my friends i have very strong feelings for her and she put me in the friendzone (i asked her out). I understand, but i think this is one of the main reasons I get so down. It really hurts everytime I talk to her or drop her off home. I look at myself and know that I need to get a grip but it really hurts. I have been thinking about cutting contact with her, but at the same time, she is my oldest friend and i feel like it is selfish and bad to just stop talking to her. But at the same time, i might need to for my own health. I think I have an underlying depression that can be suppressed for very short periods of time. But then it just comes back in the afternoon. It stops me from sleeping. I want to get into hobbies, but I cant get a job anywhere to pay for them no matter how hard i try. I have no idea what I want to do with my future and i think i am freaking out. I hate going to uni and it just makes me not want to get out of bed. I am just a real mess right now. In simple terms, I feel like I have literaly zero value as a person. I would like to hear suggestions on what I can do. I have tried counsellors and medication but they never helped me. Im starting to get a little scared because this is becoming a recurring thing. Also im starting to enjoy being with friends less and less. I feel like they leave me out of things and dont even notice when they do it. I dont talk to family because they constantly start arguements and pick on me, people at uni dont talk to me and my friends ignore me. I dont get it,i try to make conversation and be well mannered around people. I just dont get why everyone I know does this to me.

yungtomasi Dealing with depression and wrote this poem. Hope it can help someone feel better :)
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Peace is the sunshine, peace is the rain Peace is the joy, and peace is the pain Peace is the love that you feel in your heart Peace is the love thats been there from the start Peace is the gift we all have, to forgive Peace is understanding, were al... View more

Peace is the sunshine, peace is the rain Peace is the joy, and peace is the pain Peace is the love that you feel in your heart Peace is the love thats been there from the start Peace is the gift we all have, to forgive Peace is understanding, were all still figuring out how to live Peace is letting go, and letting your heart grow Peace is in the moment, where you always can go Peace is in the flowers, the birds song so sweet Peace is the present, where your feet and earth meetPeace is letting go, of your past pain and sorrow Peace is letting go, of your fears for tomorrow Peace is in a smile, in a breath of fresh air Peace is inside you, it's always been there

Dennis000 new and needing help
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Hi guys, Been thinking of joining this for a while now but my feelings have been getting worse and now i feel its time. Just needing help with the feelings of hopelessness and uselessness, i just want to be a happy 20 year old like all my friends. im... View more

Hi guys, Been thinking of joining this for a while now but my feelings have been getting worse and now i feel its time. Just needing help with the feelings of hopelessness and uselessness, i just want to be a happy 20 year old like all my friends. im at this stage now where i feel that everything i do istn good enough, i have no confidence and i just want it back. hope this helps

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