Help me, I'm 14

[shelleyxox8]

I have had anxiety for as long as I remember, but this year it has gotten really bad and lately everyday seems even more worse. I'm constantly short of breath, my heart racers a lot, I will let something worry me for over an hour and it could something so small but it's all I can think about,  chewing my mouth, having trouble sleeping, stressing heaps.... And more.

It's the holidays and I just want to have fun but my anxiety has gotten so bad and I don't know what to do. I use to faint and stuff so mum took me to the doctor but the medicine just made me dizzy and made it worse, phycologists don't help either 😞

help me 

[Suzbj]

Hey Shelley, 

It is okay. Honestly. You are okay and there are many in your age group feeling the same way. Some handle it by being bullies, others handle it by getting on drugs, others handle it by being invisible. None of those ways of handling it are okay. 

Shelley, I want some time to think about how to answer you properly. I will get back to you by this time tomorrow night. I just want you to know that you are okay just as you are and please don't DON'T choose the way-outs I have mentioned above. All of those will get you nowhere quick and make things a hell of a lot worse. 

I just want time to give your post the respect and answer that may be helpful to you.

cheers

Suz xx

[Suzbj]

Can you give a bit more information? Like how you feel about yourself? How it is at school for you? What makes you panic? Can you remember where the panic started? Is there a trigger that made your world become panicky?

Got your back

Cheers

Suz xx

[shelleyxox8]

Thank you so much for helping me and don't worry I'm not going to choose the bad options.

[Suzbj]

I know you are not. You are a strong girl for posting here and asking for help. That tells me you have the strength and fortitude to do anything you want with your life and succeed. 

If you can give a bit more information and give me a bit of time I promise - I have yoru  back and will help you as much as I can. 🙂

[Suzbj]

By the way, I have a grandson who is only two years younger than you! I will help you if you let me 🙂

[shelleyxox8]

Well school isn't very good, I was in year 8 this year and next year I will be in year 10 because I'm in accelerated. I hang out in a group and when it's the group Im accepted but when I just hang out with these two girls they kind of leave me out. ( I moved schools this year because I was bullied at my last school) a lot of the time I have to hang out with just them but when others hang out with us it's so much better. I do good at my work but I feel like my work has to be good. I feel okay about myself I just wish that my anxiety wasn't there.i don't really know what makes me anxious because I could be watching tv or anything and I could get it really bad. 

Thanks 

[Suzbj]

That sux! I will answer you tomorrow night I promise. Meanwhile, what do you think of Katie Perry? I saw a doco on her re her recent hit "Roar". She was gutted and felt totally worthless and wrote a song to try and make herself feel better. Instead of the sad song she expected she wrote "Roar". Listen to that. That is you! You will be okay and I promise I will write to you again tomorrow night! 

cheers

Suz xx

[Suzbj]

Between now and tomorrow night, think about when you first felt anxious. Try and identify the trigger. Talk tomorrow night xx

[geoff]

dear Shelley, this is an elimination process at the moment, so if you don't mind questions and comments will be made to you, so please bear with us, and we will help you.

My good friend Susan has your back and she will get return.

I am just wondering why you feel more comfortable in a larger group is because there is no pressure put on you?

Has there been any peer pressure put onto yourself simply because your in year 10 next year, which means that your a very intelligent child, and this could follow through when your in a group of only 3, whereas in a larger group it's not taken as any concern.

Even watching TV could also that there are ads which could provoke your anxiety.

What excuse did you tell your new class mates for the reason in coming to this new school.

Hang in there as it's early in the morning and most people are still asleep, but you will receive a lot more comments later on. Geoff.