Getting help

[Guest_322]

Hi again,

It's now kind of late (and I should probably be in bed as I've a morning lecture tomorrow yet I'm still wide awake).

I've just been thinking. As much as I hate to admit it- call it pride or stubbornness or whatever- I think that I probably need to go see my GP (cue inward groan).

The sadness isn't going away. The morning struggle to get out of bed isn't going away. The not wanting to face the day isn't going away. The wanting to cry isn't going away.

I haven't seen my psychologist in a while (& by a while, I mean I haven't seen her since last year) because I was doing okay- even well- the 1st half of last year. But it's like something snapped towards the end of last year/this year.

I'm not even sure what the point of this thread is...maybe it's just to feel a little less lonely. I don't know.

Anyway, thanks for reading and let's hope things improve.

You guys are the best!

Dottie

[blondguy]

Hey Dottie

I remember the trying to getting out of bed...the tears...having trouble facing the day....It was a real pain

You have helped many people on the forums and good on you 🙂

Find a GP that you get along with and enjoy seeing....you nothing to lose and everything to gain....monthly visits to a doc or a counselor works wonders.

I hope your day is good to you Dot

My kind thoughts for you

Paul

[james1]

Hey Dottie,

I hope you managed to get some sleep and get to your lecture, but no worries if not. I was pretty late to work this morning and late every morning last week!

I'm glad you felt like you could post here, even if you didn't know what to say. To be honest, I felt the same last night - just feeling really down for no particular reason. My message to a friend said: "Hello, I feel terrible. I don't know what else to say...don't really want to talk, just needed to let you know. Thanks"

You're not alone!

Feel free to let us know how your day goes. You've been a great support to others including myself and we'd love to help you as well.

James

[Guest_322]

Hi Paul,

Thanks for the lovely message . I read it between classes and it helped get me through the day 😊

I have always appreciated the kindness that you've shown in your replies to so many of us.

Thanks again.

Dottie

[Guest_322]

Hi James,

Mornings seem to have been difficult for you too. Credit to you for getting to work because I know you're going through a rough period. I mean, sure, maybe you were late but you're trying- and I think that's what counts.

I think that I can (maybe) understand why you messaged your friend. Sometimes, I feel it's not about the conversation itself but more about connecting and feeling heard.

I was on time to my lecture (10 minutes early!) My day has been up and down. Went through a few hours of feeling like crying during classes today but I kept the tears at bay. I was with uni friends for most of my classes today yet felt completely alone, you know.

Dottie

[james1]

Yes! This is absolutely true:

"Sometimes, I feel it's not about the conversation itself but more about connecting and feeling heard."

It's like, "Hey, here are my feelings - I don't normally open up, so please don't judge. Silence is better than implying my feelings are wrong."

Our brains have funny ways to make us feel alone in a crowd. Or rather, it would be funny if it didn't hurt so much. Do you have uni again today? Was Thursday your off day?

James

[Guest_322]

Hi James,

Yeah, I think so many of us so desperately want to connect. But we don't always know how to plus there's a lot at stake- hurt, judgement, disapproval, etc- so we do it in tentative, hesitant ways. Lonely in a crowded room can indeed be very painful.

Yeah, I had uni today. No uni on Thursday but I have work so that will keep me busy.

Hopefully work has been kind to you today (not sure if you had work today though).

Thanks always for your support 😊

[blondguy]

Hey Dottie

Thankyou for the wonderful compliment about my replies 🙂 Always a huge bonus to get a compliment

How are you going at uni? I hope you are doing okay.

Excuse I for the late reply to your post

My kind thoughts for you

Paulx

[Guest_322]

Hi Paul,

No worries at all- happy to hear from you.

Pleasure. You're pretty awesome on this forum so soak up the praise 😊

Uni is stressing me out (then again, when is it not ha, ha?) Quite a few assessments due soon so that will keep me busy.

Still figuring out my place in this great big world. Maybe it's naive and idealistic, but I've been thinking about wanting to work for the UN or WHO one day. But I also want to do honours (if I don't get kicked out of my degree that is ha, ha.) But nothing has been decided yet. I'm still studying and uncertain of the future 😊 Just been thinking a lot lately, that's all.

Dottie

[blondguy]

Hey Dottie

I was serious about the compliment and now I get some praise too! I am soaking it up 🙂 I am still using Windows XP (please dont laugh) on a 12 year old Hewlett Packard Mini Tower (PC) and joined BB in January when I was made redundant to talk to people that were in a similar situation. I am glad I did....I actually get to make a difference and try to help people..after the meaningless 'executive' roles Ive had.

There is nothing naive or idealistic about you Dottie. A realist....?...Yes...Thats a great quality to have.

The WHO or the UN wouldn't be out of reach for a person with your abilities. You are intelligent and possess exemplary communication skills. I really dont foresee any issues with you obtaining your degree/diploma.

Self doubt has been my biggest issue since year 12. I have actually held myself back big time for doubting my own ability for so long. I think I am still doing the same now. You dont have to.(which you know anyway)

Thankyou for your help with my daughter. You have made my weekend by not only taking the time to respond but also to have read my original thread topic and posted in the caring and empathetic way you did. Nice1

University is a priority of course. It would be great if you could stick around the BB forums...:-) You are an asset here to people that are doing it tough

My Kindest thoughts

Paul