Feeling lonely

[Bearylewis123]

I feel very lonely. At the moment, it is school holidays and I am just spending most of my time at home alone while my parents work. I have barely any friends (like 2), and the ones I do have either don't go to my school or their parents are so strict I can barely see them. I feel really sad because I look on social media and everyone is out with friends having fun while I have no one to do anything with. This year was hard for me as my old best friend left me and I haven't made many new friends. I've been friendly, approachable,vans kind and have tried so hard to make friends yet no one seems to care about me as they all have their own little groups. I feel awkward and like I'm the odd one out. I feel like I am wasting my childhood and that I am going to regret not doing much or having fun now when I'm older but I don't see any way out of this situation because I don't have anyone to have fun or go out with. My mum is supportive but she always tells me how she had so many friends at school and it makes me depressed I'm not like that. Any suggestions? 

[white knight]

Hi Bearylewis, welcome

Ok, lets first say that its good you aren't blaming your parents. Many do. Your parents have responsibility to earn income and balance family life. School holidays comes around too often for them to be able to take time off.

So being your responsibility you can plan a few things. eg. If you had an event on Wednesday nights and Saturday nights you'd have these event spaced out evenly during the week. Say Wednesday nights is sports night and Saturday night is entertainment night. Think about the things you can do on those nights eg volleyball or hockey, movies, DVD night etc. Explain to your parents your desire to fill in two nights a week doing these activities and ask for their support and help. You might also ask some FB friends to come over for that DVD night?

What do you do in between these nights? Well you better yourself by getting ahead in schooling. See, once you are old enough to work you wont get as much time off as you do as a school teenager. So why not prepare yourself for the next term of school. Have a goal eg "I'm going to get an "A" for maths" or whatever subject you choose. This is a really responsible thing to do.

Finally, are you old enough to work?. Why not get a part time job? Maccas and KFC? This will make you new friends too at the workplace. You'll have some money to buy new clothes etc. And it will fit well on any resume.

Good luck

Tony WK

[geoff]

dear Bearylewis, welcome to the site.

Tony has offered some great suggestions, but can I go to doing something else, go to an ice skating ring, put on the skates and start trying to skate, sure you will fall over, and when I tried I was worried the ice would crack, but there will be other people who will try and help you, and maybe a friendship can develop, other than that join a bicycle club, which you could probably find by googling, but they cycle anywhere around for a few hours. Geoff.