Difficulty coping with school

anon312 · ‎23-10-2017

I have been having difficulty coping with school and the environment. It is not that I'm not capable of the work because most of the time I do understand, it's the feeling I have just being there (or even while doing the work at home). I feel sick and anxious every single day. We are constantly stuck in the same rooms for hours and I feel like can't do it anymore. I don't really know how to explain, I just know that every day I go to school and it is becoming so difficult for me to function properly and act in a proper way because I lose it I feel so drained and out of it. I just want to be able to do all the normal school things without an issue. I have no idea what I want to do in life so I am losing so much motivation to attend school as well. I love my friends but even so, I feel like they don't understand how I am feeling because I know it is beyond stress of assessment or anything like that. I'm in year 11 this year and have 5 weeks left. I have no choice but to stay in school so I would just like to do whatever I can to make it as pleasurable as possible without feeling nauseous and crying everyday. Any advice is greatly appreciated 🙂

Terminator_chick · ‎23-10-2017

I'm in year 10 and I know what it's like to feel like that. I went through what u went through for a few months, high school is stressful a lot at times. Have u tried having a few days off to relax and just reset your mind?

What hobbies do you like doing?

drawing helps me, reading helps me take my mind off of things. Also take breaks from studying don't stress your body out, most importantly sleep is important make sure your getting enough sleep.

have u talked to your parents about hot stressful school is for u?

Flick_SnotGrass · ‎23-10-2017

Hey Terminator chick,

brilliant post ... a real inspiration,

ONWARDS!!

[for no particularly compelling reason]

Flick SnotGrass

Flick_SnotGrass · ‎23-10-2017

Hey anon312,

I'm Flick SnotGrass good to meet you. Can I call you Anon for short?

Sorry to hear you are 'going through the wars at the moment' as my Mum says.

Terminator chick has offered you some great ideas....thanx Tc.

I am in year 68, no really, they keep you here until you finally submit ... 🙂

Can't figure out what you want to 'Do in Life'?, no sweat ~ the job{s} hasn't been invented yet, think about it.

Actually, I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up ....

My kids asked me the same thing when they were in High School "Pick topics that will endure regardless of technology and social changes. Science, Maths, Geography, Biology, Engineering, Sales etc ... avoid Basket Weaving just because it's easy." They actually listened!!!

This might seem random but I remember coming home from an amazing movie when I was 5 .... it was "20,000 Leagues Under the Sea" [I told you I am in year 68] ... my father was screwing a lightbulb in the ceiling as I rushed into the room to tell him about the scary monster but I soon noticed he wasn't excited at all about the story ... and at that moment I wondered at what age one loses the excitement of living ... still waiting.

Have you read "The Woman Who Changed Her Brain" by Barbara Arrowsmith-Young? Great book, there may be some tips for you in there too.

By the way Anon, congratulations on reaching out, it's the toughest step...

Warm regards,

Flick

LuLu_ · ‎23-10-2017

Hello

I have had my fair share of struggles at school. Due to illness I have had to break year 12 into two years just to make it possible. I am almost finished half of my year 12 exams. For me I know I could have done so much better. I could have studied harder and not wasted so much time. BUT in reality I have been sick. I have struggled. Although it’s dissapponting I think it’s improtant to realise there is a new world after school. School isn’t going to define your life.

My advice to you is try and find a way to make school possible. You will be given consideration if the school understands what you are going through. So if you feel comfortable talk to a teacher, or perhaps get a parent or other support person to talk to the school on your behalf. The more your school knows about how you are struggling the more they can help you.

It sounds that class is making you feel anxious. Perhaps you could discuss possible rest breaks during class. Maybe just a 5 minute walk to relax and regroup before going back into class.

What kind of support are you getting?

How I have survived through weeks of sadness and worry is to take each day at a time. Recognise small victories. For me my small victories might have been that I attended the whole school day without going home. Or that I tried my best to listen in one of my classes. Or that I had a conversation with someone instead of isolating myself until the day way over.

its okay to feel that school is impossible and suffocating. The most important thing is to get support and make sure your school is aware. That way they can work with you to make it easier for you.

in terms of you friends. It is really hard for people to understand what you are going through if they haven’t experienced it. However your friends want you to feel good. Keep them close if you can.

Lastly you are not alone. You have joined a community where people will understand aspects of what you are going through. It’s can feel that you have no one and that you are lost and don’t know where to go. But it will work itself out. There is life after school. There are so many pathways they don’t tell you about so maybe find out a little more about your options.

I hope this helps even just a little.

Please let me know how you go in finding some more support.

Goodluck xx

anon234 · ‎06-11-2017

Hello name buddy 🙂

I think I know exactly what you are describing. Anxiety and depression can make doing anything hard, and school at some points becomes unbearable. It's hard to describe it any further than you did, but it does pass (or ease, I guess) eventually.

In regards to taking time off, be careful. A day off can be okay, but too many and it becomes even harder to go back. That being said, at least personally, I was getting nothing out of going. Do you have a school counsellor? Sometimes I just go and sit, not even necessarily talk. I think letting teacher/s know could be helpful - when I get like this my school work becomes nearly impossible to do (my grades went from high 90's to 50's due to anxiety and panic issues). They may be... more considerate if they are aware of how you're feeling. Even sometimes it can be a little relieving to take a short break, like a 5-10 minute walk or bathroom break to rinse your face and take a breather.

I would just recommend trying to keep going, even when you feel like you physically can't. The holidays aren't far off, anyway (even if it seems an eternity). I also wouldn't recommend complete isolation during breaks - even if you sit with people and don't really contribute all that much, or keep your mind occupied. I would recommend talking to someone (whether a parent, GP, school counsellor or teacher) about what you're experiencing. Also, have you considered what may be causing your anxiety to be increased at the moment? I thought it was just a thing that was kind of happening suddenly and so overwhelmingly, but looking back, there were a lot of things that were playing on my mind almost unconsciously (such as family, school, personal, social issues, etc).

Hope things look up soon, sending my love xx