Another newbie saying hi - Confused about what do to with myself

[Blu44]

Hello! pretty nervous about posting but here I go.
 
I'm nearly 18, questionable school performance, parents split up, body image and eating issues. And just general sadness over the years.
 
Looking around here for any advice/help, I'm not sure what I'm doing or If there Is something actually wrong with me.
 

[blondguy]

Hi Blu44

You have done really well by posting with us....and thank-you 🙂

If the Beyond Blue forums didnt have new members...there would be no forums. Your post is just as valued as anyone else's here...including mine

There is nothing wrong with a person (you!) that has summoned the strength to talk on the forums!

I understand you where the parental fighting is concerned.....It is painful Blu44. Can I ask if you have a person(s) that you can lean on when you are doing it hard? (a support network)

I do feel your pain with the sadness and low self worth.....Its a crappy place to be in

You are an amazing and proactive person Blu

The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you to post....as many times as you wish

Can I ask why you left school a few times? (if thats okay)

my kind thoughts

Paul

[Blu44]

Thank you :,)
 
I've learnt to deal with most personal problems myself, online friends have helped me greatly. I'm willing to try and talk with my mother one day soon, we have a rocky relationship although.
 

[geoff]

Hello Blu44, welcome and as Paul says we are always happy to welcome any new members who feel as though they need to reach out, not only for themselves but helping someone else, so it's great to see you.

It's been pretty tough for you growing up and I'm so sorry it has been this way, but can I start off with saying that being shy makes you want to avoid social situations and hold back on trying new things or making new friends, which are a sign of anxiety called social phobia, however, I am not qualified to diagnose you, a doctor or psych has to do this for you.

You have mentioned several issues all of which need addressing, so can you please post back so we know which one to target first, that is, help you.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Blu44]

I can count on both hands how many people I have/can comfortably talked to. It's really annoying and disheartening.
 
Just actually talked to my mother about attempting to enter Tafe this year. Knowing I've flunked school many times makes me nervous about even trying, plus money worry.
 
 

[geoff]

Hi Blu44, no one is silly only caught in an awkward position, so we want to help you to get a grounding.

It's often difficult to maintain friendships with people because we finish school, move house or change work, and we always seem to have different people passing us, so it's a continual process, even with family members, they grow up, find a relationship, someone they love and move on, and more concerned about their future, so it's often difficult trying to speak to them.

Tafe and school are different as well and you may find Tafe to be more relaxed and provide you with some spare time, plus you only get out of it what you put into it.

You maybe able to get a payment from Centrelink so I would go and ask them about getting something, this will help you with your money issues.

Deciding between your mum or your dad isn't an easy choice, you can only go with the person who is going to support you, but I would block my ears as soon as one of them criticises the other, you will make up your own mind.

How do you feel within yourself?

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Blu44]

I'm pretty eager to get a new type of education and move on, now just hoping not to freeze up doing that aha.
 
As for parents, I'll try to ignore them.
 
I ended up making a post in young adults area, not sure how to feel, probably anxious about sharing on here.