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Parents don’t seem to care

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Hey so I’m new here, and I have been suffering with anxiety for over a year and then I also had mild anxiety since I was 11 (I’m 15 now). So I told my mother at the end of last year that I was suffering with anxiety. I more have social anxiety than a... View more

Hey so I’m new here, and I have been suffering with anxiety for over a year and then I also had mild anxiety since I was 11 (I’m 15 now). So I told my mother at the end of last year that I was suffering with anxiety. I more have social anxiety than anything, but also other things make me anxious. But she just brushed it off like she does with everything. I feel like she wants her children to be perfect and we can’t have anything wrong with us. I just feel like she is neglecting us. I have been wanting to go and get properly diagnosed for my anxiety and anything else I have but she doesn’t seem like she cares. I want to get help and feel safe and happy with my own self but every day that goes by I feel worse, and I’m really scared that it’s gonna turn into depression. I also can’t just go and get diagnosed by myself because I’m a minor and either way I’m not allowed out of the house without an adult with me. I’m also too anxious to ask anyone else to take me because they’ll just talk to Mum about it and she’ll yell at me for ‘not trusting her’. She also sets all these unnecessary rules where when I explain it to my friends they say she is being unfair and eventually those friends will move onto other people who can go out and do things with them. I really don’t know what to do and how to explain to Mum that I’m actually going through something without her yelling at me for ‘overthinking’ which just makes it all worse.

Struggling at uni, stressing out, any advice?

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Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here. I moved to uni about a year ago now with my boyfriend and I have had a really hard time. I got so stressed within the first session that I was breaking down crying and having panic attacks close to dai... View more

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here. I moved to uni about a year ago now with my boyfriend and I have had a really hard time. I got so stressed within the first session that I was breaking down crying and having panic attacks close to daily. I saw a counsellor for the first time when it got to that point and have been seeing the same counsellor consistently since then (she's lovely) where I was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. I only have one friend I've made at uni but she's not in my course so I only see her sometimes. I hate not having friends and have tried my best to go out and meet people but I never seem to click with anyone. Most people in my course are a lot older than me so we don't really have anything in common. I'm also not enjoying my course. I don't really have any interests/hobbies but I feel like that's because of my depression, I just don't want to do anything, I oversleep everyday and constantly feel terrible. I'm thinking of dropping out but that affects my accommodation because I need to be a student to stay there and I really do not want to move back home with my family. This whole situation is constantly stressing me out and I just feel so scared and alone. My bf has been very supportive of me and understands my mental health and is always trying to help me out but I feel like I'm being a burden by constantly venting to him about my stresses all the time since I don't really have any friends. I know this is a long and confusing read but if you made it this far, thank you. I just want to be happy with life, it's a big ask I know. If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. I'm going to see my counsellor next week to discuss everything with her & I've already discussed this with my bf but more advice would be lovely. Cheers.

Im anxious about the next stage in life (I'm 18) I NEED ADVICE

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Alright so I feel like i'm in a weird position where I have no idea what to do next, I have no job and I have no idea of what I wanna do career or tafe/uni wise and I feel like I have almost zero direction and I'm honestly just looking for advice and... View more

Alright so I feel like i'm in a weird position where I have no idea what to do next, I have no job and I have no idea of what I wanna do career or tafe/uni wise and I feel like I have almost zero direction and I'm honestly just looking for advice and maybe a share of experiences cuz i'm lost, The only thing i guess guiding me is my broad interest in art and film but then I'm anxious about trying to make money off those qualifications and I turned down a uni course i was offered because I was hesitant about having to pay off the like 80k fees forever. This is really jumbled I know I just get extremely anxious over this stuff but i'd really appreciate advice, where were you at when you were at my age? What should I do? Am i overreacting? Should i just go all-in and take chances?

How to get back on track

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I feel like I’ve been in this mental health journey since I was 14. This year will mark 10 years - I’m just over living like this and failing to find the positive everyday. just quickly what’s on my mind - financial difficulty even though my boyfrien... View more

I feel like I’ve been in this mental health journey since I was 14. This year will mark 10 years - I’m just over living like this and failing to find the positive everyday. just quickly what’s on my mind - financial difficulty even though my boyfriend and I have a ‘reasonable’ income - including juggling credit card debt. I’ve flunked uni, probably going to kicked out and my hecs debt is just adding up. I have more debt to my insurance company for a car accident. My boyfriend knows about the debt, doesn’t know about uni - I feel like a failure. I feel our relationship isn’t going anywhere and it’s just become some sort of convenient domestic partnership. i am overweight and struggling - it’s like I tell myself I’ll be happy after I lose weight. the probably worst part of this is I guess i put on a brave front everyday going to work in an office in the corporate world and then that’s my life on repeat Monday to friday and it’s just all my fault anyway.

Choosing where to live dilemma/ feel stuck

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Hi, for some context I'm 15 Last yr I went to UK and I miss it so much- I've looked into every way to get back there and I'm left with only one way- moving there permanently on my own to live with the family I have over there. One one hand I really w... View more

Hi, for some context I'm 15 Last yr I went to UK and I miss it so much- I've looked into every way to get back there and I'm left with only one way- moving there permanently on my own to live with the family I have over there. One one hand I really want to- I can imagine myself there and what life would be like but then I'm also conflicted because I don't want my grades to drop due to changing my curriculum/ grading system, missing my parents or not making any friends/ getting made fun of- being the new kid, especially with an accent sounds really scary but then I suddenly think 'i'll adapt and work really hard, I'll be fine and make friends it's not hard'. I have a British Citizenship and as long as someone would be okay with me living with them it would be doable I'm just still not sure if I want to or not. I don't want to create a rift between me and my parents but I could become super close with my family over there. I really can visualize it but it's all about the light I put it in- It's okay and Im living a cool, average life over there or I miss my parents and living with someone who's not them makes it hard because it's not as easy to tell someone who's not your parents personal things/ health things, ect I'm so torn. It'll either be a really good decision or have a very negative impact on my life and there's no turning back on which ever decision I make. I've looked into all the details and stuff sp I know all that stuff like schools. I tried talking to my cousin (possible accommodation) but it didn't get that far- she's so busy. All I think about is being there and I don't want to have to wait until I graduate but is this the best way to do it? I feel good about it but then I think it's a terrible idea. I want to be more clear on it before I talk to my parents- I'm not sure if I should even bother, especially if I don't know for sure. Someone asked if I was running away from something but besides my dislike of Australia I have nothing to run away from- my school life could be a little better but it's okay for now. The idea of graduating from there makes me sad but then if I moved would I graduate with as good a grades- the grades I get there could make it easier to get into Uni there tho (which is already my current plan). I'm just really torn if anyone has any insight on how it could be negative or positive or affect my relationships with people (family) or anything else helpful it would be really appreciated thanks

Stuck in a job that makes you depressed

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Hi, I have always struggled with finding my direction in life and what I want to be and it has caused my parents a lot of grief and stress. So when my mums work offered me a full time traineeship, she was so excited and I said yes because at least I ... View more

Hi, I have always struggled with finding my direction in life and what I want to be and it has caused my parents a lot of grief and stress. So when my mums work offered me a full time traineeship, she was so excited and I said yes because at least I was doing something and it was making them happy, I thought it couldnt be too bad anyway. 4 months in and I am stuck in a contract that had 10 months left and I am struggling. This job is causing me so much anxiety and depression and I am not liking what im studying or doing. I cannot tell my parents this as they do not take mental illness with me serious and they will say I should be grateful. Besides this, it makes my mum in her workplace look bad if I quit. I like working with my mum but everyone else in the workplace is not good for my mental health and I feel used. I can't quit because of my parents but I want to go do childcare cause Ive always wanted to work with children but have always been too scared, hense I chose the easy path and worked with my mum. I am struggling through these last 10 months and do not know what to do as I feel a year of my life is being wasted and I could be setting myself up for a different life than this, my cert I will get in 10 months will be useful but is it worth this big mental battle and if so, how do I cope? Thank you

I hate myself.

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This is my first post so it's a little scary...my feelings were quite clear when I was contemplating writing this post, however as I sit down to do it my emotions are muddled. One of the prominent feelings I am experiencing is just an deep hatred for... View more

This is my first post so it's a little scary...my feelings were quite clear when I was contemplating writing this post, however as I sit down to do it my emotions are muddled. One of the prominent feelings I am experiencing is just an deep hatred for myself in every aspect. My appearance mostly - I'm ugly and i'm not afraid to share this view of myself with others. I do not share this out of a want for people to tell me "no, your pretty", I almost do it as a cry for help. In fact it makes me so angry when people tell me i'm not ugly, because they are blatantly lying to my face. I know i'm ugly, I have eyeballs- and what saddens me most is no one besides a plastic surgeon can help me. On these forums when people comment on their appearance, the solutions offered is; to not focus on the negatives, that you should appreciate your health/able body, and that personality is more than appearance. All the solutions do not help me at all, I agree i'm appreciative of what I have, however to me my ugly face is an issue. The worst part in my opinion is that if I had a good personality, it would make up for my bad looks. I'm a terrible person. I'm lazy, rude, selfish, and unmotivated. I feel lost, I have no idea how to fix myself- how I should behave and act. I'm over feeling sorry for my self, and my constant loneliness and crave for attention. Despite the fact that no guy would ever want me, I cant even find satisfaction in my own friends. I have friends however they don't like me and I don't like them. I'm not close with anyone, and I would never show my family my true self. The person I am around them, is different to the person who I am around my friends, which is different to the person in my head. who am I? and what did I do to deserve an ugly face, it's not fair. I'm not important to anyone, I have no idea what to do with my life. I feel my only purpose is to have children, however to do this I need a partner, whom I could not get as I am me. If I wasn't here no one would notice or care. I'm not depressed as death is my biggest fear, I want to live. I'm not anxious as I never stress over anything. I'm just numb to life.

Help Diagnose Me Please.

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Hi, I'm starting to believe in a God because there's no way I can be this unlucky without someone planning it. Its not big things like relatives dying or cancer or anything like that. It's just the small things. And there are so many of them. It feel... View more

Hi, I'm starting to believe in a God because there's no way I can be this unlucky without someone planning it. Its not big things like relatives dying or cancer or anything like that. It's just the small things. And there are so many of them. It feels like some God is constantly playing a practical joke on me. Nothing I do ever works. Nothing ever goes my way. And when it starts to go my way it does a 180 turn and just doesn't. Everything is always a disappointment. Anytime I make plans with my friends it always falls through. I feel like I have a lot of friends but only one of them actually asks me to hang out with him. I just hate the situation I'm in so much. The result of this unluckiness is just severe loneliness. I feel so lonely. I have friends, I have people that love me, I know i do, but it doesn't stop the feeling of just being completely alone. I spend so much time alone in my room and I don't want to but there's no where else for me to go. Anyway I'm posing this because lately the feeling of loneliness has gotten to a point where I'm seriously considering if I have depression or not. I'm always tired but I can never get to sleep. I feel like shit all the time. I'm always stressing about weather my friends actually like me or not. Recently I've been falling into crying fits. I just want to know your opinion. Should I go see a doctor? I don't feel comfortable talking about it with any of my family or most of my friends. Thanks for your time.

too worried to attend school

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Hello, lately I've been having trouble getting through a single day at school without having some form of anxiety attack. I'm 14 and currently attend high school (grade 9). I've had anxiety for as long as i can remember but it has gotten worse in the... View more

Hello, lately I've been having trouble getting through a single day at school without having some form of anxiety attack. I'm 14 and currently attend high school (grade 9). I've had anxiety for as long as i can remember but it has gotten worse in the recent months. I'm not an academic and struggle with my school work and grades. I've got dyscalculia and have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome. I have close friends and can rely on them and family for support. My issue with anxiety comes from the other students around me and the teachers. I'm constantly in fear that i will get bullied, beaten, hurt or abused by students. I've been bullied mentally in the past but never severely. I dislike most of my teachers and we often have arguments. I have the biggest issue with my English teacher. She and i are always in fights and she constantly singles me out and turns me into the bad guy. However this is not causing me anxiety and only contributes to me not wanting to attend school. The reason my anxiety has flared back up recently is because people have discovered my political views opinions. Lets just say there not the norm. as this is controversial topic i don't want to start a war but lets just say most people oppose my opinions. However because of this i fear i will be hurt both physically and mentally. This is causing me great stress and i'm me to lose sleep. I take medicine for my Asperger syndrome and that does help control my feelings sometimes but isn't really helping that much. I plan to leave school as soon as i can as i don't feel like it is beneficial for me and my life aspirations to continue being there. It's also hurting my mental health quite severely as just explained. However until such a time as i can find an alternative i'm stuck with no ideas on how to help myself.

I think I might have social anxiety?

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I've been wondering for a while now as I am fearful I might have it. Because before social situations I usually have a racing heart and sweat a little, I also have a heavy throat (is that how you describe it?) I also feel quite dizzy and nauseous in ... View more

I've been wondering for a while now as I am fearful I might have it. Because before social situations I usually have a racing heart and sweat a little, I also have a heavy throat (is that how you describe it?) I also feel quite dizzy and nauseous in large crowds (It has happened to me on 3 occasions.) One of the worst cases was when I was getting dressed to go to the Hairdressers to get my haircut, I starting freaking out about how they would judge me while cutting my hair. I'm not sure if that's just being shy or if it's something worse.

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