I think I might have social anxiety?

[Aggrov]

I've been wondering for a while now as I am fearful I might have it. Because before social situations I usually have a racing heart and sweat a little, I also have a heavy throat (is that how you describe it?) I also feel quite dizzy and nauseous in large crowds (It has happened to me on 3 occasions.)

One of the worst cases was when I was getting dressed to go to the Hairdressers to get my haircut, I starting freaking out about how they would judge me while cutting my hair. I'm not sure if that's just being shy or if it's something worse.

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Aggrov,

I hope it’s okay if I extend a caring welcome to you here....good on you for reaching out 🙂

It sounds like you’ve been feeling very nervous & unsettled in a lot of social situations. I feel fearing judgement from others is an awful feeling...that hairdresser incident must have been particularly distressing. I really feel for you...

I think that a good starting point is to make an appointment with your GP, and ask for a long appointment. I would gently suggest opening up about your mental health struggles, and asking about the possibility of a mental health care plan.

If your GP feels it’s appropriate, that care plan will help him/her track your mental health progress, as well as entitle you to a certain number of Medicare rebatable (subsidised) psychologist appointments. Perhaps that is something you might like to consider as it might be helpful to you...

Also, you’re most welcome to write in again 🙂 There’s no pressure or obligation of course, but just know there’s plenty of caring support here if you need it. I’m thinking of you today.

Kind thoughts to you,

Pepper

[Aggrov]

Thank you very much for the advice Pepper.

But the main thing I am concerned about with visiting a GP is that my mum will know what I am feeling, and I don't think she will quite understand as when I am in public with her, she embarrasses me on purpose.

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Aggrov,

Thank you so much for writing back. It’s good to hear from you.

Thanks for explaining the situation with your mum. I feel that I understand what you’re saying...

It must be hard when you feel your mum won’t understand. I feel her going out of her way to embarrass you must really hurt too...

I wonder if perhaps a way forward is to look into seeing a GP independently (i.e. by yourself), but I also understand this will depend on your age too.

If you’re 18 years and over, you should be able to see a GP independently.

If you’re under 18 though, confidentiality laws vary between states. If this applies to you, I feel it would help to contact your local GP practice and ask about the age minimum for independent visits (i.e. seeing a GP unaccompanied).

Alternatively, you should be able to find this information online (plus extra information regarding confidentiality) for your state and age. Just a couple of gentle suggestions....

If you feel like unloading more thoughts/worries/etc, please don’t hesitate to write again. That being said, there’s no pressure or obligation of course. Only when and if you want to...

Kind and caring thoughts,

Pepper

[Jane2713]

Hey Aggrov,

I too understand what its like to feel as if you can't talk to your parents.

One of the best things I ever did was open up to them about my struggles. And yes it was hard and confronting at the time but in the end, it really payed off. I got the help that I needed and my parents started to understand.

There is nothing wrong with you Aggrov and your mum is your mum. She only wants the best for you.

I know it doesn't always seem that way, but I think she'd want you to be happy.

Jane xx