Parents don’t seem to care

[ebart57]

Hey so I’m new here, and I have been suffering with anxiety for over a year and then I also had mild anxiety since I was 11 (I’m 15 now). So I told my mother at the end of last year that I was suffering with anxiety. I more have social anxiety than anything, but also other things make me anxious. But she just brushed it off like she does with everything. I feel like she wants her children to be perfect and we can’t have anything wrong with us. I just feel like she is neglecting us. I have been wanting to go and get properly diagnosed for my anxiety and anything else I have but she doesn’t seem like she cares. I want to get help and feel safe and happy with my own self but every day that goes by I feel worse, and I’m really scared that it’s gonna turn into depression. I also can’t just go and get diagnosed by myself because I’m a minor and either way I’m not allowed out of the house without an adult with me. I’m also too anxious to ask anyone else to take me because they’ll just talk to Mum about it and she’ll yell at me for ‘not trusting her’. She also sets all these unnecessary rules where when I explain it to my friends they say she is being unfair and eventually those friends will move onto other people who can go out and do things with them. I really don’t know what to do and how to explain to Mum that I’m actually going through something without her yelling at me for ‘overthinking’ which just makes it all worse.

[MsAnxious]

Hello ebart57

I am sorry to hear about your struggles. Have you tried calling Kids Helpline? It is a confidential service. They specialise in helping young people.

Regards

MsAnxious

[PamelaR]

Hi ebart57, sending you a warm welcome to our community forums

My heart goes out to you and I agree with MsAnxious - Kids Helpline 1300 551 800 are there to help young people. You can chat online to them too on:

• kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

Other support services you can access are (if you don't already know them) - eHeadspace1800 650 890. You can also chat to them on headspace.org.au/eheadspace/

You're not alone ebart. Feel free to come and talk to us whenever you want. What you are experiencing is normal. Mum's go through their own issues and this sometimes impacts on their kids. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Just finds it hard to do the things that will support you the best.

Keep reaching out ebart.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[Happygoluckymiss]

Hey ebart57

I’m happygoluckymiss and I recently just posted for the first time.

I wanted to introduce myself as I see from your post, you are a mature, self intuned person and understands the impact of your feelings and emotions on your life. What an amazing quality to have at such a young age. You’re inspiring actually.

I completely agree with msanxious and hope that you can contact kids helpline and speak with a person about your feelings and emotions.

I love my family to death and I have a Mum who I love beyond words, but there have been times where she has dismissed my feelings (I am a lot older than you - 36 actually) and it has made me feel exactly the same way. Where her idea of helping is to just build a bridge and get over it. This is particularly unhelpful as I can’t even fathom the thought of ‘just getting over it’ and that hurts me a lot. But, one thing that no one can ever take from you (Mum, Dad, family, friends etc) is how you feel. These are your feelings and they are yours. So, if you’re feeling anxious etc it’s completely real and justified.

Please check soon and I hope you call kids helpline

sending you positivity