advice

[banjo_cat]

hi i am a 16 year old

i am woundering how to talk to other about my feeling and other things . i have not be able to talk to other people about my feeling for a long time . It is only that my year adivsor found out that i have bad thoughts she is trying to get me some help but i am insure how to talk to people. i don't have any friends close to me that i can talk to . It only person that noctice times about how if feel in my Nanni but she does not know how to help me .

I am tired all the time and have do the brain test on this website the resait are what i know here they are Your Score 41 (High) but don't know what to do about htey any advice

[Doolhof]

Hi banjo cat,

It seems like your year advisor is willing to listen to you. Maybe if you find it hard to talk about how you are feeling, you could write it down or maybe draw pictures to show how you are feeling and explain what the pictures mean to you.

You could do the tests yo mentioned and print them out, that would give someone an idea of how yo are feeling and thinking.

If you spoke with your Nanni would she be able to exp0lain things to your parents?

Is it possible for you to talk to a Doctor about how you are feeling, they may be able to do tests or ask questions to find out why you are so tired.

Speaking more to your year advisor may be a good step. Hopefully once you have talked a little you will feel more comfortable doing so.

Writing how you are feeling here may help you too.

Maybe you could share the parts of the test that you scored high in and we may be able to offer you some suggestions.

All the best, cheers from Dools

[banjo_cat]

hi Doolhof

thank you for the advice i will try some it , as for the part about Nanni talking to Mum she has try but Mum says i am being silly . here are my answers to the brain quiz on this website

In the past 4 weeks...

About how often did you feel tired out for no good reason?

All of the time

About how often did you feel nervous?

Some of the time


About how often did you feel so nervous that nothing could calm you down?

Some of the time

About how often did you feel hopeless?

Most of the time

About how often did you feel restless or fidgety?

All of the time

About how often did you feel so restless you could not sit still?
Most of the time

About how often did you feel depressed?

Most of the time

About how often did you feel that everything was an effort?

All of the time

About how often did you feel so sad that nothing could cheer you up?
Most of the time

About how often did you feel worthless?

Most of the time
so what do you think i should do ?

[LavenderTea]

Hey banjo cat,

Thanks for telling us what's happening for you.

41 is a high score, and it seems that you're having a bit of trouble given what your responses are on the test. I'm really sorry to hear that you're not feeling well.

It's good that your school advisor is encouraging you to talk about what you're feeling with others, but I understand that it can be hard to do. Is there a school counsellor that you can talk to?

It's really important to talk to someone to get some help, and I think that talking with your Nanni is a great start. She can help you book an appointment with a doctor so that they can get you the support that you need.

In the mean time, if you'd like to speak to anyone, BeyondBlue have a 24/7 phone service (1300 22 4636), an online chat, and an emailing service.

Also, there are 24/7 chat lines like Lifeline if you would like to talk (13 11 14).

Please feel free to continue sharing.

LT.

[Doolhof]

Hi banjo cat,

If I were to do that quiz, my responses would be very similar to yours. I realise that due to my depression dn a few circumstances, my depression is a little intense right now.

My psychologist has been teaching me that it is okay to feel depressed, it does not mean that the whole world is about to blow up, it just means I am not as happy today as I would like to be.

I have options! Today I am planning to make myself some lentil burgers , I am going to clean up the patio, I will sit out in the sun for a while and read more of a book on dealing with depression so I can learn more and I will ask my husband to drive me to the local second hand shop, leave me there for an hour and pick me up again.

Recently I took a fall and have a moon boot on my right ankle so I can not drive. For a couple of days I have been so depressed I have done very little.

Today I don't want to experience such intense depression. I am going to push myself to do different things, to do something!

Your Mum may not be able to understand what you are experiencing. That does not mean it is not true and it doesn't mean your Mum can't help you.

Maybe you can think of ways your Mum can help you! Ask her to listen with out being judgemental. Maybe there is something the two of you could do together.

Does your Mum cook? Would you like to learn how to cook something? Could your Mum teach you? (just a suggestion. Sometimes we need to think outside of the box so to speak.)

Cheers from Dools

[banjo_cat]

hi lanender tea

i have been trying to talk to the school counselllor but it is not working as it is over the phone , i am going to try my TAFE on tusday to see about one there .

from Banjocat

[banjo_cat]

hi Dools

no my Mum does not cook but My Nanni has dicide that over the weekend i am to write a list of things i what to do now and after i finish school and Mum and her are going to sit down and talk about them then call me and talk about them .

from Banjocat

[Freeyourself]

Hi Banjo cat,

I am really sorry your not feeling your best.

I found with my depression and anxiety it was extremely difficult for me to talk about how I was feeling because I simply did not know myself. It's hard to tell others what's happening when you yourself doesn't even know.

The easiest way for me to say it was "I'm not feeling well mentally right now." Most people will understand what that means. They may ask follow up questions or they may not but it's a good starting point.

Another great thing to do is allow your brain 10 to 20mins just for itself. Get a journal or notebook and just write. If you can't think of anything to write, draw pictures or scribble. You would be surprised how much lighter you feel when you release it on paper.

It's ok to feel mentally unwell and when you do just go with the feelings because the more you resist and fight it, the more tired you become.

Thinking of you

Sarah

[banjo_cat]

hi

i need some more advice .

how do you talk to a person eg cousellor face to face with out no making seanse?

as i am go to try and talk to a counsellor at my local tafe

any advice

Banjocat

[luckytries]

Hey Banjocat,

Before I went to a counsellor, I was so afraid I wouldn’t know what to say or do... but when I went I found that it really helped to just pretend I was talking to myself, not someone I didn’t know.

My advice is that when you go to the counsellor, don’t worry about making sense, they will do their best to understand you and what you are feeling and going through.

Hope this helps,

- Lucky