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Why Am I So Useless

Guest_0845
Community Member

Why Am I So Useless?

I am hopeless at everything I have ever tried, work, trying to find love, trying to make friends, trying to find something im good at.

I havent got much energy to keep going and everything is such an effort, including making food, getting out of bed...

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therising
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi D

Life can definitely throw some unfulfilling and challenging curve bulls our way to the the point that leads us to feel like we're cursed in some cruel way: Terrible jobs, potential partners who don't know how to love fully, potential friends who aren't well educated in reaching out to others and so on. Not necessarily a curse but definitely a curve ball is the idea that those around us struggle with how to raise themselves whilst at the same time they don't know how to raise and guide someone who feels so lost and drained.

I admit, I'm pretty quirky so I know I have to raise myself. Most around me aren't into all that 'weird' spiritual non religious 'mumbo jumbo'. It's a tough gig at times, raising your self. You just wish people would understand you. You know that you're good value, it's just them who can't see the value. Their loss. So, the self raising goes on, with many challenges to face.

So, whilst folk around me tend to drain me with their own weird ways, I ask myself 'How do I power up through it all?' Yes, I have lots of strange ways. One is to start the morning in what I refer to as a state of expansion. I go out in the 'cold' and perceive it as invigorating (bit of a challenge at first). I will not contract like most do when they perceive the morning as 'cold' (hugging themselves and complaining). I open my arms wide and say to the breeze 'Give me life'. When I do this, I come alive (how could I not, given some mornings are around 10 degrees). I feel a chill run through my whole body like a charge. It is an incredibly simple exercise but rather mind blowing at the same time. I love 'mind blowing', it blows out the cobwebs others have placed in my mind, the ones that belong to them and not me.

It's a draining world at times D. We have to find ways to charge up. Definitely hard in depression but not impossible, as I have been in that dark place myself in the past, for quite a number of years (an intensely painful and soul destroying place to be for sure).

So D, I challenge you to do the morning charge up exercise. You may say 'Who are you to challenge me?!' To that I say 'I am one who desires to raise you (through challenge) so you understand how incredible you truly are!'

🙂

Purple4
Community Member

Hello

Trust me when I say you are not the only one that feels this way. Low self esteem makes everything so difficult. When it becomes overwhelming just break your day into small parts. Simple things like, make the bed, have a shower, go for a walk. Sometimes this can help get you through the day 😀

quirkywords
Community Champion
Community Champion

Guest welcome to the forum. Well done for starting a thread that has an interesting topic.

That is something you can do write well to get people to reply and many more will read your words and not post.

I do not like the words useless or hopeless.

Can you reframe your sentences and say I have tried things that did not work. I keep trying.

I have little energy but I have reached out to people on a forum and I am seeking ideas.

Have you spoken to your doctor?

Take care

quirky

Ive tried everything and nothing works, medication just makes it worse,

honestly i dont think even god can help me, im just that worthless and meaningless

Hi Guest_0845,

Thank you for posting tonight. Please know that you’ve come to a safe and supportive space to talk through this tough time. It is so brave of you to reach out here and we understand how difficult it can be to reach out for support.
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Feel free to keep checking in with us. We're all here to support you.

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Guest 0845..

Please don’t think yourself as worthless or meaningless..That’s so untrue..I have never met you yet you really do mean something to me..and your very much worth talking to and getting to know...

Trying different things is good..you will find something that your good at it may take some time but we’ll worth it...Don’t ever give up trying...That’s important...

Depression tells us all sorts of lies...and we start believing them...and listening to them..then living inside those lies...Please try as hard as you can to not believe them...

Do you have anything at all that you like to do for yourself...listening to music..internet games..reading..

Reaching out here on these forums is hard to do..and you did that...there are so many people here that will give you their support and care..I’m one of them..and that’s because your a very valued person that we care about...and want to try to support...

Here for you dear Guest..if you feel up to talking some more...about anything you want to talk about..

Kind thoughts Guest with some caring hugs...🤗

Grandy...xx