hello Dan, it always breaks my heart when I read and hear of one person in a marriage that has depression, because it seems to put a barrier between the two of you, not that this is what you ever wanted, but depression will do this, but what you don't know is that your marriage can get better once again, although at the moment that may seem to be impossible, but really nothing is impossible when you sit down and think of it.
We often feel as though we're not happy because of our spouse, and yes this maybe true in some occasions, but then there are times when it might not be true.
By your wife going out with her friends isn't going to help you but more so destroy you even further, and to say she deserves better is not any way to try and help you, because you could be working and doing everything possible to try and make her happy, and you can't possibly do anymore for her.
This is going to be a continual problem for you, because what else does she want which you may not be able to afford, which brings me to ask you does she work as well.
At the moment you have to get well yourself, that's important, that's what you must do, because if you don't then you will be unhappy for a long time, in this marriage or by yourself.
Ask your doctor about the mental health plan which entitles you to 10 free sessions with a psychologist.
There is much more that I would like to discuss with you, but only when you are ready, so please do. Geoff.
