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[nolife]

Hello ,

Just got the courage to get on this site , i'm a 52 year old male and even though my life might seem ok to people i can't escape the thoughts in my head of feeling ugly and useless everyday

[blondguy]

Hello NLife

Welcome to the forums and thankyou for posting with us! I am 58 and I understand intrusive thoughts

You are stronger than you think....I have people I know off these forums that dont have the courage to post here for their own reasons. You have had the strength to post with us and that makes you amazing

There is no judgement on the forums....just the best support we can offer. I have had depression for over 20 years and in recovery....slowly...but getting there

Is there anything that you wish to talk about?

Im Paul and its good to meet you! Please post back when you wish...There are many people on the forums that can be here for you

my kind thoughts

[baet123]

Hey Nolife,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for posting and sharing your situation with us.

You are extremely brave for posting and I commend you for doing so.

My name is Nick but most people know me here as baet123 🙂 Nice to meet you.

This site may be extremely useful to you as it is a place where you can tell us as much or as little as you are comfortable with and you will never be judged. People on this site are extremely helpful and often we share similar experiences with each other and can learn a great deal from other users.

I look forward to seeing you around on the forums and stay strong and positive!

All the best,

Baet123

[geoff]

Hello Nolife, and I can't welcome you any more than what Paul and Nick have done, it's a pleasure to know you.

These thoughts you are having may scare you and any intrusive thought seems to grind away in your mind over and over, thinking there is no escape, but there is.

I say this because for 58 years they have been happening to me which I can explain once you get back to us.

Please feel comfortable talking to us because all of us on this forum have had our own type of experiences, so we want to help you with this.

I hope you can trust us.

Geoff.

[nolife]

Hi Geoff ,

Excuse me if i have trouble explaining myself in words. I have always had problems with the way i think about myself and my worth in life ( i can't even stand looking at photos of myself so i dont have any in my house}

Since i got divorced five years ago my daily thoughts have gradually intensified to the point of i hate being alone with myself. One of my favourite songs has the line : why go on living when dying is so much easier

[geoff]

Hi Nolife, don't be sorry, you can explain how you feel any way you want and I do understand what you are saying.

Our thoughts aren't always true and when you're feeling like this, they will most likely be negative thoughts, so we pound our thoughts always going against us, depression does this and I'm sure the divorce is a good reason to do this.

I've been divorced for 12 years, give or take a couple of years, actually, I can't remember the date but it was devastating just as it was for you, and yes I always thought I would be able to get another female but now it's not possible.

You're not alone about looking at photos of yourself, plus I never wanted anyone to photograph me.

Try not to get trapped in any obsessive thoughts and I'd really like to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[squarepeg]

Hi nolife

Just know you are heard and understand. I think a lot of us struggle with our self worth. Good on you for posting here. I'm new here too (I originally joined years ago but haven't been active until today) It seems a very supportive and positive environment.

I hope you find some comfort by sharing.

Kym

[nolife]

hi geoff ,

Thanks or your support , my name is peter and today has been one of my real bad days. I am struggling to keep believing i belong in this world , all my motivation seems to be draining away

[geoff]

Hi Peter, I want to thank you and appreciate in getting back to us.

We know why you have your lack of motivation and believe me I am really sorry, but the stronger this is, the stronger your depression is gaining pace and onto this, you're saying that you're ugly, but remember there is always someone wanting to be someone else.

Believe that you can achieve a goal because no one is going to come and knock on your door, that's what's feeding your depression, you need to try and make an effort to exercise, go and visit MensLine, where they have all types of men who can help you, older men with experience, I know you won't be able to find a female but it will improve some confidence and that's what your struggling against.

I'm interested to know about your day and why it was so bad for you, that's if you want to share it with me which I hope you will, even if it's only half, I'd like to help you.

The other point I haven't mentioned is about seeing your doctor and wonder if you have considered doing this.

Hope you can get back to me.

Geoff.

[nolife]

Hi Geoff,

I have spoken to my doctor in the past but have been too scared to follow through with counselling in case it affects my work . My work is all i have in my life it's the only reason i get up 5 days a week . I'm a keep to myself type of person my workmates are only colleagues not friends. I don' have any friends i can talk to and i only have limited family.