Struggling to understand fairness

[Guest_35699812]

I’m a 23 year old female wanted to start a family. From a very young age I have always dreamed of being a mum when I am older. And now at this stage in my life I feel that starting this journey would be a good idea. I have been with my current partner for 5 years, he is 24 years old. 

I’m not entirely sure that I wanna keep going. I have been on my TTC ( trying to convince) journey for 2 years now and it just not getting anywhere nor am I seeing any light at the end of the tunnel. I have gone through all the tests I can and I have suggested all the things for my partner to do. But we just haven’t gotten anywhere. 

Every negative test or failed cycle just gets more and more difficult and I have no one to turn to that will understand how I feel. Because when I try to talk about my feelings I get shut down or told “it will happen if you stop stressing” and I’m honestly sick of it. 

I honestly don’t understand how or why this journey to becoming a mum is this hard 

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

There is little others can do but I'm aware that what others tell you has some truth to it. You might not believe this but my ex wifes parents couldnt have kids and they eventually went to a priest. The priest said the same thing - to relax and the Lord will provide (by the way I'm an atheist lol). Well the mother fell pregnant at 38yo and then had 5 kids in 5 and a half years, my ex wife the youngest and a twin!!. 

Because you have had all the tests and you are both capable of conceiving, I suggest you keep trying for another year or two then see your GP. Even now to discuss it with your GP wont hurt just to place you at ease. As you know you have age on your side.

I dont have any further advice but I'm glad you posted and we are here if you want to bring any topic up. I hope someone else will comment further.

TonyWK

[Mark Z.]

Hi Guest,

I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing on your journey to becoming a mum. It must be very hard for you, especially when the emotional support you need isn't there. If I put myself in your position I would also feel frustrated and upset.

It might help to seek support from those who truly understand what you're going through. Have you considered joining a support group/community where you can connect with others experiencing similar challenges? For example, ACCESS Australia - a national infertility network offering support to people facing fertility challenges. They provide information on infertility, treatments, and support group details across Australia. https://access.org.au 

Meanwhile, do not forget to take care of your mental and emotional health. This journey can be draining, and it’s crucial to prioritise self-care and seek support from professionals if you're feeling overwhelmed.

Warmly,

Mark