Overwhelmed

spookedoutsum
Community Member

In the past couple of weeks I have been struggling to keep my head above water, it seems like as soon as I fix one thing - something else happens. One thing after the other, I never get a chance to just breathe. As a sufferer of anxiety, this definitely doesn't help my situation as I tend to overthink absolutely everything.

My boyfriend broke up with me, I've been having trouble with friends and am falling behind in school because I haven't been able to go. I have countless assessments due, and I don't know how I am going to cope. Some days I can't even force myself to get out of bed. I have a job interview for my first job ever on Wednesday and it has just added to the list of things for me to worry about. Not the interview itself, but worrying about what i'm going to do if I get the job - will i be good enough at it? Will they judge me for my mistakes? How quickly am I expected to learn everything? All of this is eating me up inside, I have so many things to worry about, but there's too many things to focus on at one time in order for me to get better, everything is just so overwhelming.

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White_Rose
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello Spookedoutsum

Welcome to the forum. I hope we can help you bring some order into your life. I think most of us can relate to everything happening at once with little time to get ahead. When this is added to your anxiety I can imagine how difficult it is for you.

Do you mind if I give you some steps which may be helpful?

First of all, what areas of your life do you have no control over? I suggest the break up with your BF comes into this category. I am sure it's hurting you but there is nothing you can do so if possible, can you put it to one side, at least for the time being. Also your relationships with your friends. They are probably stressed as well and it's very tempting to snap at everything. Put this aside with the BF.

Secondly, what must you do in the immediate now? Preparing for your interview is one thing. Try to not go further and worry about how you will manage if you get the job. That can come after you get the job and does not help your anxiety in the now.

A major 'must do' I suspect is your assessments. These are of primary importance. Can you sit down and decide which needs to be completed first, second, third etc.

If there are other tasks in the background can you decide if you have control or not and act accordingly. I realise I make it sound easy and when you are anxious there is the thought that you cannot make any headway. I know it's not easy. If it was, you would have already organised yourself. Please take time to sit down and decide how you are going to categorize all these tasks and in what order you will do them. It may seem a waste of time but I believe it will save you time in the long run and certainly help your anxiety.

You said "I have so many things to worry about, but there's too many things to focus on at one time in order for me to get better, everything is just so overwhelming." You know you cannot do everything at once so please start with that thought. Even if all these tasks was a life or death matter (which they are not) you can still only do one thing at a time. Choose the order to complete each task remembering you cannot change anything you do not control, such as the BF.

Then start working on project one.

I really hope this helps you. Good luck with your interview.

Mary

Thank you. As you said, I'll try focus on the things that I can control. It's hard when your brain is running through a million thoughts an hour but I know I need to make a start somewhere.

Again, thank you for all the help. It's very much appreciated!

Hi spookedoutsum good luck with your job interview and if you ever need to talk I’m here for you ok