odd feelings for a man.

[albion]

Hi everyone,

I won't beat around the bush. I am married all children grown up and living their own lives now. trouble is I get mixed signals about myself for men and it bothers me. I have a good friend who is gay and openly admits he is.. We are pretty close as it were but nothing sexual between us.. But if he is depressed or feeling blue and opens up to me about it, I get an erection for no reason other than empathy and wanting to be closer to help ease his pain. I stress it is not sexual. I am 65 and at my age erections are um hard to come by. So it bothers me that I can get one when talking to him over the phone or when he texts me about a problem he is having with himself. eg he felt sick today, been vomiting all night and wasn't in a mood for anyone except me. At one point he asked why I didn't come down to help him out a little. I was put off balance by this comment and for some odd bloody reason I got an erection. So anyone out there can answer that, let me know. There is nothing sexual between us. I must stress that over and over...We are very good mates and have been for over 40 years now.

[white knight]

Hi Albion, welcome and thanks for your honesty.

I have not had these reactions ever under similar cur instances. Answering your post will raise it to the top and be prominent for longer so I wish you luck.

Alternatively thus topic might be better answered by a sex therapist.

Tony WK

[blondguy]

Hello Albion

Welcome to the forums and thankyou for posting too!

your feelings are not odd at all. I am 56 and now and again I feel exactly the same when someone (male or female) gives me their care and heartfelt thoughts. Even though its non sexual, he is connecting with you emotionally and good on him for placing his total trust in you!

The erection is a chemical reaction to your thoughts Albion, if it can happen in our sleep it can happen during the day. There is nothing unusual or weird about having an erection during a conversation. We are only human and having a mate for that long is a bonus. Good on you!

I envy you having a mate for over 40 years, I envy your friendship...Your friend is a strong guy (same as you for posting) for being openly gay and well done to him.

Erection or not, you should be proud of the quality of friendship you have with a mate that has lasted over 4 decades

There are many kind people on the forums that can be here for you Albion. The forums are rock solid secure to ensure your privacy. It would be great if you feel like posting back when convenient

my kind wishes

Paul

[albion]

Thanks Paul.... I was beginning to think I was losing it a little and it maybe deeper that I first thought. I get them whenever women are kind or feel unwanted but this is the first time I've ever risen for a man. He really is a good mate and we often talk shop about everything without feeling put out by it.... weird thing about it too is I am not ashamed of it. Just caught me off balance initially. But I think he may put out a little as I told him what happened. Perhaps that was a step too far but I don't regret it either. There is no sexual attraction between us, just good mates is all. We both know we cannot cross that line too.

Cheers. Albion

[albion]

Thanks for your imput but I don't think a sex therapist is the answer. We're not attracted to each other that way.... at times we lean on each other but it never goes beyond boundaries. I've known him way too long to ever go that one step further too. But I thank you for you advice.

Cheers

Albion