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[Cuzzo]

Hi all,

my name is Iain and I often get low, don't have a lot of confidence and have self esteem issues.

I'm married to a beautiful girl with 2 wonderful children & would do anything for them

I try to make myself happier by seeking other options, partner wise, to make myself feel better

My wife has found out about this and to say she is unhappy is an understatement. I've done the wrong thing and want to make amends so that I can get the trust back that I am now craving

I'm here just to talk and know there's other people that I can chat to. To know there's others out there who understand and can help with advice

Cheers

[Just Sara]

HI and welcome Lain;

You've done a very courageous act by opening up about this issue. Personally, I was a bit taken back by your disclosure, but as I'm here to help in a non judgemental way, I'll offer my support to assist in any way I can.

You've stated that low self esteem and a lack of confidence are important issues for you and the impetus for seeking out other women. As a woman I don't understand this rationale. How would you feel about going into it a bit further so I (and others) can support you better?

I could guess and say you have problems with your self image, but I'd rather hear your story instead. I'm here most days as are others, who want to be there for people in need, even with confronting issues such as this.

You're important and should feel confident this site is a safe place to be and share.

Hope to hear back from you soon and wishing you well...

Sara

[Cuzzo]

Hi Sara,

thanks for reading my message.

I don't have a problem with self image at all but I just think it's a lack of self confidence. I'm not sure I did what I did, but never went through with it all. But maybe I needed that self reassurance that I was good enough.

I don't know why I did it though. I'm still trying to find answers. I have a loving wife and 2 beautiful kids

I have suffered with depression before and was on medication for it. Haven't taken the meds for over 7 years though. I thought I was better. Maybe I'm not and never will be. But I know if I want to save my family, I have to do everything I can to try and mend it all

[Just Sara]

Hey Lain;

Depression is the pits; been there. Could you explain what "...good enough" means? We've all probably said those words at one time or another, but in different contexts.

I hope you have a good GP and psych to help sort thru the med's and counselling stuff. Take it easy on yourself too ok?

Anyway, it's late and I'm getting one of my own 'moments'. Sorry...

Sara