Let’s start with HI!

[Lost_Soul_2112]

Where do I begin?? 😬😬

I am a working mom of 3. Firm believer of God but not strict church goers 😔😔 Love country music & words puzzles game 🧩 🧩 

Why I’m here?? 🤨🤨

I think I’m lost! I always believe in moving forward but lately it seems like going nowhere or downhill! 😔😔 
So… here I am with hope to find any clues to my missing puzzle 🙏🏻🙏🏻🌸🌸

[quirkywords]

Welcome lost soul. If you feel lost do you know where you want to be. I find when zi feel lost I feel directionless.  What does moving forward mean to you.
welcome to the forums.

you are not alone and people are listening to you

[melodica]

Hello, and welcome to the Beyond Blue forums. You have landed on an excellent place for support and encouragement where you can share your experiences. 
I hear how lost you feel, despite your interest in religion and puzzles, and despite being a mum to three and working. One place to start could be to visit your GP, who can set you up with a mental health plan. That will enable you to access a psychologist who can help you figure out where you are struggling and offer support. I have found it very helpful myself. Having someone to open up to has really helped me regain my sense of self. 

I hope to see you around the forums again soon. Let us know how you get on.  

[therising]

Hi Lost_Soul_2112

As a 55yo gal with a husband and a couple of grown kids, I've reached the conclusion after all these years that life is a landscape of sorts. There are always going to be parts of that landscape where we can find ourself lost (as long as we remain a part of that landscape). When to stop and ask for directions definitely becomes key to moving forward with a sense of direction. I've found that figuring out who the best guides are and who are definitely not the best guides is so important. Btw, the kind of people who tend to say 'You just need to get on with life' or 'Everyone goes through this kind of stuff' are not the best guides. There's zero guidance in both of those statements and you can feel it.

Great guides are typically great detectives. They're good at detecting a whole stack of things like what exactly it is that we're feeling, when we started feeling it, exactly where we are in life (in that landscape) whether there are some culprits involved (a job we don't like, people who stress or depress us, whether our chemistry's off etc) and the list goes on. Lots of clues when it comes to solving the mystery of why we can be feeling so lost or down/low. 'What detective/s to choose?' becomes the ultimate question. 'Do I need a physical detective, a GP who might find physical/chemical clues through blood tests, as to why I'm feeling a low?'. 'Do I need a psychological detective, who might be able to find mental clues as to what this low's about?'. 'Do I need a soulful kind of detective, that can pinpoint why life's got a bit of a depressing or soul destroying vibe to it at the moment?'.

Sounds a bit strange but could what you're feeling involve the challenge to take certain elements in life to the next level. Kind of like 'I have formed a strong and basic connection to God but now I feel I'm ready to take that basic connection to the next inspiring level'. What could that level involve? Could it involve exploring different elements of spiritual connection? 'I have formed a love of listening to and feeling country music and now I'm ready to take how I feel it to the next level'. Could that involve an amazing new sound system or sharing the feeling with others through line dancing? Could life be feeling like it's going downhill because you're not graduating upwards to next level? 

[Lost_Soul_2112]

Thank you, @melodica 🌸🌸

I’ve been debating of seeing a GP & keep holding onto the thought coz I don’t think I’m sick enough to see one. I’m a mom & I should be strong for my kids… yet, I’m not sure if I can do this!

[Lost_Soul_2112]

Thank you, @therising 🌸🌸

Yes, I really need a guide. Good guide not deceiving, not saint-wannabe! But I lost trust in people around me these days. Too many fake, sugarcoat tongue with angel face who waiting for the right moment to tear you apart! I’m 45 yo & feel stupid to ignore those red flags when extending my hand to welcome snakes into my life, house! Now… I trust no one & this kills me inside… therefore, here I am!! 

[therising]

Hi Lost_Soul_2112

I can relate to what you say. It's like you can find people who are typically helpful or caring in a number of ways but as soon as you express yourself the 'wrong' way or you let your guard down a little too much, they disappoint themself from the role of 'He/she who can be trusted to be kind, open minded and genuinely caring'. While this used to challenge me and raise a whole stack of tough emotions to work through, I've more so found these days that they are the ones who help me develop my intuition. I figure how else would I learn who not to fully trust with certain things? How else could I learn to get a feel for or sense of who puts me down, brings me down or leaves me down under certain circumstances?

I find there can be quite a bit of fine tuning. For example, this can involve developing a sense of which types of people are open to talking about the more soulful or spiritual elements of self vs the kinds of people who are more so about psychology, biology and chemistry and how we work in that way. It could also involve gaining a sense of which types of people can be good at guiding us toward a really helpful vision of the future for us. They may not feel like the ones who are willing to listen to how depressed or stressed we can be feeling at times. Just a couple of examples. Intuitive fine tuning can be tough and there can be quite a bit of disappointment to be faced, people disappointing themselves from the roles we appoint them. I've found sometimes it takes a circle of people to make a difference. Person 1 can be who we can trust with spiritual matters. Person 2 can be our go to person for dark emotional matters. Person 3 can be brilliant when it comes to psychological challenges and so on. One person may not fill all roles. Occasionally we can come across a multi faceted gem of a person, who has many positive and constructive sides to them. Such a person is a rare find. They are an absolute treasure.