Joyc

[Joyc]

Hi,

i had been bullied at work after I resigned things seem to following me around. I took up age care in home n community I seem to be treated the same way. I got excluded being thrown to be with the contractor rather then staff. I keep feeling that I have a bad reputation now n I wouldn’t be able to find a job. Anyone with similar situation would love to talk to u.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Perhaps I can help. See I've noticed the last few years some friends seem to have controversy or bullying follow them from one workplace to another. Why is this?

Well it isnt the victims fault imo, it is that the world (especially the workplace) is swamped with opportunistic people that see someone weaker than them, someone they can control. This predatory behaviour occurs more obvious in childhood years. I recall being hunted down by three brothers in primary school every afternoon on the way home, it was terrifying. Then one day a kid swore at me on the way home and I did the same for a few days until my father caught me.

Back to your situation. Some of us especially with mental issues, have not developed fully in terms of emotions and as we grow we dont fully protect ourselves from others and their cruelty. I'm talking of my experiences here. I identified this issue with myself.

So I wrote three threads on this forum pertaining to the problem.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-s...

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/fortress-of-survival-part-2#qr3...

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/fortress-of-survival-part-3#qyL...

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-s...#qtjNLXHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

If the above threads interest you and you'd like to talk more about this topic then I'm here most evenings and will answer you. Take your time. These sorts of issues deserve much thought.

TonyWK

[Joyc]

Thk u so much for ur advice. I will go into the link u provide n ask for more advice.

[Jack2021]

Hi Joyc

I'm brand new to the forums here, but I just read your situation here and I know it sucks, cause I was in the exact same situation (diff industry though) and it freaking sucks for sure

What was happening with you exactly in the last job if you don't mind sharing here? 😊

I know what it's like being excluded from social stuff with co workers, it sucks and I'ts really hurtful, weather it's meetings or group chats, or even just friendly passing conversation...it's a tricky place to be..

Though in your situation being excluded doesn't mean you didn't work hard, I'm sure you will have a good reputation with management at least, whether you liked the job or not, you can always take the skills you learned with you and apply them to another job where you can be appreciated 😊

As long as you're up for it, I say go ahead and go looking for other jobs if that's what you want to do 😊😊