Infertility help

[Elle871223]

Hi,

I could really use some support and help. Im suffering from major anxiety and depression. I rarely want to get out of bed (I do but its difficult).

My job is demanding and stressful ( I get no support). I have a lot to be grateful for but my family amd parnter also add a lot of stress.

I have been trying to get pregnant and have done all of the fertility tests and I have a low egg count. Everytime I am late it seems I am filled with so much hope and then I get my period and im left empty.

I feel like I am not coping well with anything and everything is overwhelming. I dont want to keep going like this but I dont really see any options or ways out.

Any support or experiences would be much appreciated.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Very stressful indeed. Well my first wife and I wanted ti conceive without luck ...the reason was one overy was blocked and the other wouldnt release eggs needing meds to fo so.

The stress was immense. But as she was only 23yo we had a lot of time. She became pregnant 5 months after meds commenved but I mention this because I relate to the stress between partners.

Can I suggest, this period of time is a time you both have to come together emotionally. You can come up with ideas to soften the bad news like a restaurant dinner that night. Then encourage each other to move forward being positive.

Us men harbour our feelings during such times. He is hurting too especially watching you in sorrow.

Relax

Google

Beyondblue Topic worry worry worry

Take care

TonyWK

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Elle871223,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for being here.

I'm really sorry for what you're going through and honestly it sounds so incredibly isolating. I hope that you're able to find a bit of support here.

I'm not able to relate to the experience of infertility but what I do know is that it can be like an ongoing cycle of trauma and grief - being so hopeful and then being disappointed, over and over again.

Can I ask if you've ever considered seeing a therapist? Being able to process everything with someone can be so important, as well as finding ways to being able to cope with all this pain while you're trying to get pregnant.

I hope that this helps a little, please let us know how we can be here for you and support you.

[Elle871223]

Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it. It was thoughtful and insightful. I especially liked the way you put the 'my partner is hurting too'. I think its sometimes hard for me to keep things real. I will definitely have a look at that forum.

[Elle871223]

Thanks for your reply. It is something my partner is encouraging me to do. I have had a bad experience with a therapist (she stopped taking my calls/texts) so I am a little hesitant. I do need to seek someone out as this situation needs it. I am not coping on my own.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Elle871223,

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it can take a while to find someone, but as someone who sees a therapist I know how helpful it can be.

Here is a website that lists some therapists working with infertility - hopefully that might give you a place to start - http://access.org.au/?p=35

Hope this helps,