Dear New Member~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum, a good place to get suggestions from others who have been down the same path.
Your first massage is blunt, to the point and very brief, which is fine, however in order to give you the answers you deserve can I request that you provide more information? For instance why do you ask her to leave, the type of help she was asking for and if you were unable or did not wish to provide it, and what you felt was freeloading over and above the normal ups and downs of a relationship?
My apologies for asking more, however to answer your post otherwise would just be guessing.
Croix
